We're in our very very preliminary stages of planning for our banquet next year and I already have so many opinions about how we should go about doing it. 😅
I know the norm is to have it at a hotel because it's kind of the only option that fits a crowd that's about 200 strong. But I keep having this naggy feeling that hotels are ridiculously overcharging all the almost-weds out there and I feel super 不甘愿 paying for something that's not worth the money.
Daniel is the eldest son in the family whereas I'm the youngest daughter. So as expected, my parents have had their fair share of lavish banquets when my brothers got married (both in reputable hotels) and are ok with us having our wedding almost anywhere as long as we like it.
Daniel's parents have been nothing but accommodating but I know that they would prefer something more formal and traditional for our banquet since I had my way for the solemnization.
But truth is, I feel very uncomfortable choosing a random hotel and forking out close to $2000 per table just because it is traditional/what others do/很拉风 (very got face)
I've categorised the banquet choices into a few categories which I will proceed to do a SWOT analysis for. LOL kidding la. Just some stuff from the top of my mind. #dayrebrides
The Good to Have, Not Good to Pay For Option
Hotels that fall into this category include: Capella, W Hotel, RWS SEA Aquarium, Shangri-La…
I think there's no denying that these hotels are very grand and beautiful. Plus I can already imagine that the service is perfect 👌🏻 and the food great.
But paying close to $2000 for each table before tax is really quite difficult to stomach. Also, considering that Daniel and I married young, we're putting unnecessary stress on our friends who are mostly still studying.
Even if we say that they don't need to give a big Ang Pao. It's still quite stressful right?
To pay $200++ per pax for a wedding dinner is ABIT too much even for working adults ah haha. It's my special day! I want everyone to come and be happy without having to worry about Ang Pao.
I also feel that if the price difference between a normal hotel and the hotels in this category is so great, the difference in the wedding package better be super great also.
But no leh…they are usually 大同小异.
I really wanted to have my wedding at the SEA Aquarium considering how I love aquariums and staying at the suite is one of my lifelong dreams, but nope. We're not going to be ok with spending that kind of money.
Although I gotta say if I had to spend $2000, I would definitely choose the Aquarium over all the other hotels. Their USP is kinda unbeatable right? The rest just tend to put a lot of fresh flowers everywhere.
Aiyo so pretty. But I guess you gotta get a good photog too!
The Very Normal Hotel
Hotels that fall into this category: mostly all the rest
I think maybe it's because I've always had a stigma against hotel banquets cos they always feel the same unless you have an extremely specific theme.
If not, most weddings go for the romantic, fairytale, whimsical theme that when accompanied by the very generic decor provided by the hotel when u sign, becomes very forgettable.
I'm not saying that that's a bad thing! After all, a marriage is really just to celebrate the union of 2, but I like my events a little more personal and "me" so that's why I don't really like hotel weddings.
Whenever I think that I'm paying $150 per pax for my guests to sit down and eat some generic Chinese food, I think of all the food I can eat for $150 and I feel very sian.
Like that I might as well bring them to a nice restaurant and they can eat so much better food!
Of course, you're paying for the venue and the stage and the lights and the everything else, but that can be kind of a shortfall as well.
Usually wedding packages come with decor, invites, guestbooks etc. When it's given to you complimentary, you feel like it's a waste not to use it. However, the hotel uses standard templates for all couples which makes your wedding look similar to other couples. 😶
Daniel always says I suffer from this disease whereby I always want to be different from others.
But I don't think I just want to be different! I JUST WANT TO BE ME! I took so many years to find my own character. Why would I want to bury it under generic templates!! Plus, it's our wedding, we should show OUR story!
Don't just fall into traditional stereotypes because they are safe! Do something you really like 🙂
The Conventional Restaurant
Included in this category are: Peach Garden, Peony Jade, Qian Xu
I think restaurant weddings are awesome. Not only do they give off the old school vibe (I always imagine my parents getting married in an old school restaurant), they are very no frills and affordable.
I like no frills stuff because then I can do my own customisations. 🙂
The downside tho is that you might come across as trying to save money la. But I feel that a well done restaurant banquet can be very very memorable too!
The Unconventional Restaurant
I think The East Bureau belonged in this category, but there are so many more out there. But finding one for banquets might be a little challenging thanks to space issues.
But! We're lucky to have shortlisted a restaurant for our banquet and we're going to check them out today. Their prices are not cheap. It's on the same level as the normal hotels and their expensive menus can even rival the good to have hotels 😰😱😨
But we're still going to take a look anyway cos it's the only one that has caught my eye so far. I'm not sharing it yet 😛
Will share when things are more or less confirmed 😂😂
Look! It's my #BOTD! Bangle of the day hahaha.
Yes I have hairy hands 😛
Does anyone else here love Brand's Essence of Chicken?
I love the taste of it! But it seems most of my family members and even Daniel hate the taste of it ☹️☹️
By the way, following up on the site visit, I actually love the ambience and the views, but I don't rly like the layout. It is a hollow square so no space for stage or anything.
Not that I want to have a program haha. But it's a little weird. Gotta think of how to work around it!
BTW! My budget feature is now out on The Wedding Scoop.
In case you still aren't sick of my wedding rambling, you can read more there. 😊😊