HEY GUYS! Happy Saturday!

We're taking a short break from replying chats cos taking graduation/family photos today πŸ’ͺ🏻πŸ’ͺ🏻

Will get back to you guys whenever we can!

Very long never doll up already. It's actually an extremely painful process and I feel so pained haha. πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

Husband Ng @thenniel also looking quite dapper. @mrschow_yiiyin says that we look super good today but HAHA IT'S COS WE LOOK DAMN CUI EVERYDAY. So the difference damn big πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Btw if you haven't tried, the golden lava toast from toast box is heartattack in bread form.

So so so so good but so horrifyingly sinful too. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

#dayrefatties

Damn shameless but LOL. Once in a blue moon πŸŒ™ 穿美美 must take more photos πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

We finally graduated (hahaha a year ago)! Here's to never going back to the endless days of ferrying to and fro from the west side and 2.5 hour MRT rides to the far far west.

No more falling asleep during lectures and no more figuring out statistics in the dead of night. No more project works!!!

Hehehehe ζ―•δΈšε’―! πŸŽ“πŸŽ“πŸŽ“

With that, we conclude photo taking and I'm super happy to have removed my makeup, lenses and washed my hair.

I love my glasses πŸ‘“ and my high bun ❀️️ Not suited to look pretty. Can't believe I used to put this kind of make up almost daily when I was 19 πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Soooo comfy now ☺️☺️☺️

Anyway! If you guys need family photos taken, can consider going to Werkz Photo Studios @ Paya Lebar

The uncle was damn meticulous and kept rearranging our positions and telling us to put our chin down, body front etc. Even helped to rearrange my hair 😱

And they were super patient with my 2 month old nephew who was the real MVP of the day. So quiet and didn't cry at all! πŸ’ͺ🏻πŸ’ͺ🏻

They also provide graduation robes if you don't have your own. THIS IS NOT SPONSORED cos I'm not a superstar. Just that my brother's friend runs this place so just sharing!! πŸ’ͺ🏻

What's it like to be married young

Haha in case you guys don't know, Daniel and I are only 23 and turning 24 this year. We got married in July 2016 and it's super lucky that he married me or else he can't even be in this photo shoot πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

My mum is super traditional so usually things that have permanence like a family photo hung up in the living room can only consist of people who are technically permanent in the family. In this case, boyfriends not counted. Husbands only! πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

The biggest difference is no difference πŸ˜‚

I think it really depends on what type of couple you guys are. I've heard a lot of horror stories whereby the guy finds it suffocating after getting married cos suddenly it's like everything you do you have to think of someone else cos that person is always around you.

Daniel and I spent super a lot of time together before we got married so it was not so much of a shock πŸ˜‚ I'm super clingy cos I find it difficult to be comfortable around new ppl which is why I always hang out with the same few.

I don't know how people in LDRs do it cos I would be really weirded out if I didn't know what my husband to be's habits and quirks are like. Or how his farts smell like πŸ˜‚

But that's just me la. I'm sure many many many of LDRs work out and end in happy marriages cos love works in AMAZING ways.

So, when we got married, it wasn't much of a huge change but rather just more intense and long hangout sessions together 😰 does it even make sense.

Your friends and family will be shocked

When we first decided to get married, my asshat of friends jokingly asked if I was pregnant. But what really kinda annoyed me was that people who were not that close to me and heard of the wedding started to ask my close friends.

Surprise surprise, 7 months down the road and no baby.

I didn't really bother with all the rumours floating around because ζΈ…θ€…θ‡ͺζΈ… and no baby means no baby??!??! Cannot fake one right!

So don't be bothered by what people say la.

There's bound to be rumours because as Singaporeans there's this prescribed way of doing things which is that you must get a job, get a house then get married.

But seriously, don't worry about the prescribed stuff and don't worry about the norms. If you feel that you've found a person you wanna spend the rest of your life with and you're committed to making things work, I don't see why you shouldn't tie the knot!

Besides weird acquaintances, family was also a slight problem. My mum, like I mentioned is super traditional. So when I first told her Daniel and I were going to tie the knot, she was like 😱😱😱😱.

I felt really really sad for a period of time because I could feel that she wasn't really happy for me and she wasn't really involved with the wedding preparations. To her, I wasn't really getting married but more of getting engaged?

That really really hurt me cos I really wanted her blessings.

I spoke with my dad about this and I guess we really tried to work things out as best as we could. They had nothing against Daniel. It was more of having something against their daughter getting married so quickly.

Ultimately, I think it was resolved when Daniel's proposal included a video recorded by my closest family and friends. There, my mum told me that she was sad I was leaving her and getting married, but that she was happy it's Daniel and that I need to grow up after becoming a wife

I think that was one of the few times I sobbed in public, at a bus stop in Perth haha.

Also, even if parents disagree or are slightly taken aback at first, they are your family. And as time passes, they will learn to accept, love, embrace and move on.

Now, I feel like my mum likes Daniel more than she likes me πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ when I go to work, she asks Daniel to stay at home with her so she won't be lonely πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

There is a difference being legally married

Let me tell you, being able to tell people "my husband is waiting for me" at 23 years young is damn shiok. πŸ˜‚

We met one of Husband Ng's primary school friend out of the blue. And Daniel introduced me as his wife. Then the friend said "you mean girlfriend la!" And then we were like uh no. Wife. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

I guess to put it very very very frankly. It just makes you feel special lor. Like in a world filled with people who are struggling to make things work out. We found each other.

It's also very useful in work cos you can bring your spouse along to company events but you can't bring your boyfriend.

Also, it's legit when you say "my husband needs me to go home early tonight to settle some stuff" but not legit when you say boyfriend. This one, I'm damn annoyed about. Cos technically it's just a title and if you need to do something you need to do it.

I don't understand why there's such an big difference, but I know that being legal makes things much easier.

You're more forgiving and more patient

Actually, I don't even know if this is true cos I will never know what it's like being married at a later age. But I do know that when we're young, we do stupid things and when we're young, we're more capable of admitting we're wrong.

I'm not sure if it's because egos grow bigger and shells grow harder as we go through the different stages of life, but I know that if I'm wrong, I will apologise and Daniel does it too.

Sometimes we act cute or whine to dissolve tensions simply because it's ok to act that way at 23. And I think this is really useful in helping keep the relationship in control.

My brother once told me to think hard about whether I want to marry Daniel because technically I don't know how he will be like as he goes through the different stages in life. For example when he starts working and is under pressure, will I love him then?

My response to that is that no matter when you marry someone, whether it's at 20, 30 or 40, you cannot control what's going to happen in the later years when you're together.

How will you know if you still love someone when he's a father if you don't marry him and have children with him in the first place? How will you know if you'll love him when he's old, sick and senile, if you don't give each other the chance to have and to hold?

To be honest, everything in life is a leap of faith. And if I needed to put my faith in Husband Ng, I would do so in a heartbeat.

You cannot choose not to be hurt in life, but you can choose who hurts you. And I'm happy that we are on this journey together. #dayrebrides

Btw, if you guys think it's expensive to have a wedding, and that's the reason why you can't get married, check out our Taobao wedding done at around 6k.

It's not how much you spend but how much you want to share that matters. 😌 I didn't have a veil HAHAHAHAH. And everything I had came from Taobao. But it was still beautiful and I think of it fondly still.

So! Don't be scared to tie the knot if you think you've found the perfect one.

Omg! @thenniel just gave me a super good idea on how the crochet can fit me!! Remember @angieishikawa:020217?

If the crochet bralette straps are too short for you, just unpick them and sew them back as normal straps and not cross back! Then it will fit!!! 😱😱😱 Revelation! ⚑️⚑️⚑️ Going home to try it out ☺️☺️

At @thenniel 's place for prayers to tiangong now!!

Hehe and very cute long long homemade ang ku kueh ✌🏻️

Yusheng at 1am anyone?

My mother in law came up with this super cool concept of putting paper plates around the salad so that it can catch all the veggie when it's LAO-ed πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

So clever! Flower shaped some more. πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ»

My husband the butcher cutting up the piglet we used as offering.

I secretly think this is his lifelong ambition. To be a butcher πŸ˜‚

#traditions

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