//omg realised my phone date is off so this post date is also wrong 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 nvm la uh…😌😌
Good morning!! ☺️
Today, Husband Ng and I celebrate our one year proposal anniversary and I'm super stoked because we finally have dates to celebrate 🎉😂
We've never been the kind of milestone celebrating couple (no dating anniversary etc) because we are just….so….lazy and forgetful. 😂
So this time, I dug out the date of our proposal and literally CAMPED my own life so we will remember to celebrate it 😂 #dayrebrides
If you're interested in reading my lame ass proposal post…it's here! @braintango:141016 ☺️
Time really flies man! Can't believe it's been one year since Perth and graduation and I haven't posted up anything about our Perth trip 😂 It was epic and we drove something like 2000km over 7-8 days 😂 #dayretravels
Ok I will make it a point to put something together for this soon. 😂
Anyway, I've heard from my colleague that the blue boat house Daniel proposed at has been submerged??? 😥😱 And I also recently heard from a relative that the restaurant we had our solemnization at has closed down 😂😂😂
But it's ok!!!! Places are impermanent hehe. I'm sure our love will be otherwise 😌 Time to update those posts 😂😂
Oh but since we're on the topic of proposals, I thought it'd also be interesting to share my thoughts on…
I think every couple has the ring talk before setting their relationship in stone. It's only natural? Cos spending such a huge amount of money on such a small thing requires discussion 😅
It can be a sensitive topic especially if you're marrying younger and don't have alot of savings, you'll want to spend more on things like the banquet etc.
Unless your husband surprises you with a ring la!! Then just be happy and admire hehe.
// The logic in the entire thing //
I was having this discussion with some friends recently and I think the problem with men is that they don't see the logic in spending so much money on a small stone 😂
Sometimes it really feels like you're giving into societal norms and doing things for the sake of doing it and the whole engagement ring thing just seems like a universal scam. And it's true la! I admit it.
Spending thousands of dollars on a small shiny rock seems quite……. 😌😌
But tbh The Ring is a very illogical thing. Much like how you cannot use logic to explain luck, fate and destiny, you also cannot explain the effect The Ring has on making your wife happy and their family happy.
Someone mentioned that The Ring is sort of a testament to the parents in showing how serious you are about marrying their daughter. Cos obviously our parents don't know everything about our relationship and sometimes need external, tangible cues to convince them.
Eh…you can also say that "I'm marrying you what also not your parents" which is technically true la!! In theory, but never in practice.
Like it or not, you are marrying someone who comes with an entire life worth of memories, relationships and of course, family. And you will definitely interact with them in one way or another. And if your wife values their opinion, maybe you should too?
But tbh it all boils down to…
// Talking About The Ring //
Communication is key in everything. Don't know why people don't like to talk about shit. I love talking about EVERYTHING. Which is why I'm so talkative sometimes 😂
When we first decided we were going to get married, we talked about alot of things (this was before he even proposed). And The Ring was one of them.
We discussed a budget, practicality and alternatives and it's important to be willing to have an open discussion.
I knew from the very beginning that we probably wouldn't be able to get a diamond, so I was open to discussing about other alternatives. 😊 #dayrebrides this is just me personally! I know that an engagement ring can be very important for a girl since it's a once in a lifetime thing so just be comfortable with your own decisions!
Although I did also leave a footnote in the discussion to mention that it would be nice to have a diamond la no matter how small or regardless of the clarity 😂😂
Here are some of the alternative designs I was looking at! I was really really into pearls because my mother always calls me her 掌上明珠 or the shimmering pearl on her palm so I thought it'd be cute to be Daniel's too. And also have something to symbolise that.
Besides, pearls are cheaper and yet they still have that bridal feel because they are generally creamy white and match that bridal colour theme (I very orthodox one when it comes to colours). Plus it looked amazing when framed in gold.
I think the trend now is to get precious gemstones? I think that's quite cute too! Except that I don't fancy the bright colours which is why I never included them in my choice!
I did however consider manmade diamonds and unpolished diamonds but the unpolished ones were a little too hipster for my liking Ahahaha.
If you're considering man made diamonds, don't get the cubic zirconia cos my issue with them is that they aren't really diamonds? Plus they cloud with time. 😱
If you're getting a diamond there's also the clarity, cut and carat to think about and if you're not going for a super clear and well cut diamond you can actually save quite a bit and up the carat!
But I'm no expert la. HAHA go down and talk to any sales assistants!
Alot of couples nowadays also go to the branded stores to get their engagement rings…but to be honest, a diamond is a diamond.
I don't see the need to pay a premium just so it comes in a robin blue box or a red box 😊 But!!!! Again that's just me ok!
Brandes or more trendy brands can have a mark up of almost 30% to 40% which is kind of insane 😱 If you have a diamond ring from these places let me know if it's justified? I've always wondered hehe.
Just go to a reputable shop and you should be fine!
// Dealing with the parents and friends //
You know how sometimes you have super kpo relatives or friends that upon hearing you are engaged will be like "wah show the ring leh!" And then proceed to ask how many carat and how much it costs?
HAHA my grandma does it every single time she sees me wearing my engagement ring and my response is to always say. I don't know leh! Daniel bought it and never told me the price.
Which is sort of a half truth?
Cos tbh I don't know exactly how much it costs and Daniel refuses to tell me. I also only know that it is quite clear and quite a good cut cos he's also a sucker for buying nice things.
But other than that I don't know and I don't find a need to tell anyone? Even my mum doesn't know and I don't think she needs to know.
So just tell them…I don't know leh HAHAHAHAHA. And they will stop asking.
// The undeniable joys of ring receiving //
Despite saying that I didn't need a diamond ring, I can not deny how happy I was when Daniel proposed with one. 😂😂
I was seriously so so happu that I didn't want to take it off and I couldn't stop admiring it HAHA. But tbh I think I would have been equally happy even if it wasn't a diamond. 😊
But to the guys, ring giving is important and it's also important to know what your wife to be likes!
I kept an entire Pinterest board of designs I liked and I always gravitated towards the designs that are more classic and old fashioned. I loved square settings with a ring of smaller diamonds framing it. 😱😱
If you don't know what you like, you can always turn to Pinterest! It's a great way to catalogue and share your ideas! Here are some of the designs I really liked:
The classic sollitare
But in rose gold. Rose gold is a damn good idea on paper and in theory but it's actually not as good of a material when compared to silver, titanium or white gold cos they mix copper into gold to give it that rose colour.
My sister in law was actually allergic to her rose gold wedding band and had to have it replaced to gold ones. Copper allergies are actually quite common so got to take note 😱
I like the sollitare design cos it's damn simple and damn hard to go wrong la! But at the same time it can be too simple? Idk also HAHA.
Especially if you choose a simple silver band. But then again you can always play it up with the number of prongs/claws that hold your diamond up for more variations!
This is my absolute favourite kind of design! The pillow setting hehe.
I love how it looks very heirloomish and that it is very very very classy looking 😍😍
But obviously you have to understand that these pictures on Pinterest are either costumer jewelry (cos lol the carat damn huge) and nobody really sets such a huge diamond on pink gold 😂
But Aiya, eyecandy right? And even if it's not realistic, it gives an overall feel of what you're looking for.
Hehe till today, I'm still super in love with it. 😊 I don't know how much and what cut and what clarity HAHA so don't ask me! I only know it was from Lee Hwa's Forever Mark series. 😊
Hehe a photo Daniel took after he proposed in Perth 😊
Anyway, thank you Husband Ng for getting down on one knee even tho you initially thought it was lame/not necessary. I know we are both not the kind of people to do things for the sake of just doing it, but I think this marriage has made us realise that sometimes we have to do it despite what we think.
That as long as we're happy together, we can be happy doing things we don't believe in doing.
P.S. I was just complaining about how my engagement ring now feels a little too tight but I realised its because I've stacked way too many rings on my finger till the extent that the engagement ring sits on the finger belly (fattest part of the finger) so it feels super tight HAHAHA.
Hilarious. Oh! Since I'm at it I also wanted to share pics of my locket! I've been wearing it almost everyday since I got it about 6 years ago. It's from Thomas Sabo and it's my favourite thing ever.
It looks like this! Super simple. It's so difficult to find a locket that actually opens and is functional nowadays 😂
Alot of the jewelers only make the faux lockets and I find that very…weird. They have the hinge on the side but it just…doesn't open??? 😂
This one can even put a photo inside! Hehe uh don't judge these are photos from our Secondary/JC days and I haven't changed it/don't intend to change it.
HAHA look! It's baby Daniel so cute. And I obviously don't look like that anymore cos I cannot be bothered to dress up 😂😂
Thomas Sabo is one of my favourite brands ever because I love how they use Sterling Silver and how the prices are not too insane.
I have a filled Pandora bracelet that has a total value of $1000 (most are gifts) and I don't really wear it as much as my TS stuff. I feel that Pandora is seriously quite overpriced and the workmanship isn't great as well 😂
TS has charms also! And I love how they always have an oriental/punk kind of influence 😍
Anyway, we're pushing boundaries in our relationship here cos Daniel got me a tiny gold abacus for our PA (proposal anniversary)
AND I LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love how obiang it is and how it's gold and how it is so so so so so cute! An abacus for counting money! Such good luck for a business 😂😂
Now I'm thinking of getting him an abacus ring so we can be an obiang couple together. 😎 Anyone got cheap and reliable gold shops to recommend?
We're headed out for dinner with the NGs! Anyone else having Mother's Day celebration?
HAHA I seldom doll up but woohoo always happy to have an excuse to leave the house. 😂😂
I'm wearing LoveBug from Colourpop for the first time after a long time and haha I still don't quite like it. It's quite difficult to apply (dk if my applicator just sucks but it's super furry) and dries slightly patchy 😂 #dayrebeauty
And…while we are at it, might as well go all out and #ootd 😂😂😂
Rompers are a pain to pee in, and long sleeved rompers are the worst. WORST. In theory, they are perfect. In reality they are a mess. I am a mess.
Btw, if you are eagle eyed enough, yes! That's a new bralette I'm wearing!!! 😊😊😊 #ourbraletteclub
Playing peekaboo! Hehe. My favourite way to show off the straps. 😍
The new bralette is pretty awesome 😂 It's slightly tight on me but not too bad! Cos there's not much stretch to the band for this.
But the extra straps at the front and sides are a yes. Plus there are two contrasting lace types so yes yes yes! 😂 Also comes in army green.