Before I start posting, haha just a shout-out that we will be at Holland Village this Thursday for a small flea hosted by The Ladies Card!
Taking this opportunity to clear our ever expanding mountain of perfectly ok pieces but old designs and slightly imperfect (slight discolouration or dust stains) at heavily discounted prices.
I remember the discount bin to be crazy popular at Artbox so we're excited to see you girls again!
We really have perfectly ok pieces of OBClassic midi and Strappy pieces that have slight 2 tone differences at the band going at $3-$5 so it would really be a shame to miss this!!
I know it's a weekday so it will probably be harder for you girls to drop by so don't fret it ok! 😉 It'd be nice to see some of you still! 😂
Ok…now that that is out of the way…
Our Chinese ceremony and wedding banquet is happening in less than 3 weeks and there are still a lot of things I haven't done!
So stressful really haha! I am just half hoping that nothing goes wrong and that everything is simple and goes smoothly.
I'm very thankful to my MIL and mummy for settling all the traditional stuff that needs to be bought and done. Cannot imagine having to do that ourselves 😂
But even then, as a bride to be, haha there are so many things I'm not doing or not planning to do.
My make up artist was asking for a picture of my dress and pictures of any looks I like and I was like…dress is not here yet and…I haven't thought of any looks 😂
I think I scared her. 😂.
But if you're curious, here are some things I'm not doing as a bride to be.
1. I'm not losing weight
Haha, I don't even think I'm trying 😂
My mum keeps asking me to watch my diet and my aunt who comes over pretty often also says I should start losing some weight for the wedding but…
I can't be half assed to do it 😂
I just told my bridesmaids that it's not like my relatives and friends don't know how I already look like. Lose weight for what!
Plus I'm ok with the way I look (from the good angles 😂) so this isn't on my list of priorities.
I've seen brides who manage to lose 20kgs before their wedding and look like a completely different person in their wedding photos VS post wedding and I'm amazed.
And also kudos to their dedication but I don't think I could ever do it 😂 PPG girl now, PPG forever 😂
2. Not having a pre wedding shoot
Randomly inserted a pretty picture of myself during the solemnization last year 😂😂
I get super super jealous and envious when I see other brides and their PWS photos cos it's very very gorgeous (well done all you #dayrebrides) but it's just not a Daniel and me thing to do la 😂
I booked and then subsequently cancelled a PWS cos…idk. I didn't feel like it and I don't feel like we needed it.
I think we're both extremely busy in this particular point in our lives that we rather not add in this additional stress.
The outcome is wonderful of course, but I am very easily stressed out by having to plan and coordinate and be present for such things that I think it would be better for us if we did this perhaps at another point of time in our lives.
I know la, where got girl don't like to doll up and be pretty and take nice photos right!
Hahaha, me lor.
I mean, if I'm forced to, I'd probably enjoy it, but I don't think I enjoy it enough to want to blow money and time and effort on it.
We both agreed that we will take nice nice wedding photos if we feel like it after the wedding.
Afterall, don't always have to do things just because others are doing it! 😉 At some points in time, I think I was very pressurised to do things the normal way.
Which is why I tried my best to squeeze in a trip and a PWS before the banquet. But it made me really freaking stressed out and frustrated.
It was not worth it.
This is your life and your wedding! So don't have to be compelled to do things you don't want to do!
Except for traditions that your parents insist on having 😂😂😂 that one…even I cannot escape. 😂 But you can always try bargaining!
3. Not having a wedding programme
Haha freak, still sharing ridiculous photos from the solemnization so this post doesn't end up so wordy. 😂
But basically, to the dismay of the entire world, we are not having a wedding program. 😂
Ya, we're not going to sing each other love songs or dance or have games and speeches. 😂 And I feel like I'm disappointing a lot of people 😫
I think from the very beginning Daniel and I already decided that we didn't want to have a stage or a show.
Because idk about everyone else la, I always cringe at the programs at weddings NOT BECAUSE IT IS CRINGEWORTHY but because I am very uncomfortable displaying acts of love in public and I am very uncomfortable having to be the centre of attention.
Lucky for me, I have a very very understanding husband and compromising family members who haha even tho they don't agree, have come to accept this.
We didn't want a march in but my bridesmaids coerced me into having one today 😂 #dedinside
We are however, doing up a short video to thank our guests for celebrating our union and also to share a little about ourselves and our history so I think that will be fun la!
The location is also kind of problematic cos it doesn't have a stage and isn't your usual banquet hall arrangement so it makes having programming a real pain in the ass 😂
There is however, good food tho! 😂 I make sure the food is worth the price I pay 😂
4. Not having a honeymoon plan
I know of some couples that fly off for a honeymoon immediately after their wedding and I'm super impressed (again) because I foresee myself being dead beat and needing 7 days to recover from the celebrations haha.
Plus travelling itself is already damn tiring so it's like tiring X 1000 😂
My friend fell sick on her honeymoon and stayed in bed while her husband went out jogging the whole day. Damn sian!
But anyway, no plans for the honeymoon yet!
I think we might go on our usual short trips to BKK or Malaysia but nothing huge on our list right now. We can't really afford it also, considering how a huge chunk of our savings have been eaten up by home renovations and the banquet 😅
Again, it sometimes gets to me when I see dating couples going to Europe or South Africa and we don't even have plans to go any where far for our honeymoon.
But then I look back and think about it and….
I don't even wanna go anywhere far in the first place (I prefer familiarity). It's always just this sense of FOMO that develops when you look at the lives of other people.
Anyway, we're super cool about not having honeymoon plans. The same way we are super chill about most things in life 😂
5. Not preening enough
My bridesmaids are FREAKING out because I don't intend to get my nails done for the wedding 😂
I HAD A HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE the last time round when I went to some random shop to have my nails done for the solemnization and got charged a whopping $450 for my manicure and pedicure (btw exceeds the cost of my dress by HUNDREDS of dollars) and the manager threatened to FLAME me on their Facebook when I mentioned that the pricing wasn't clear and that I wanted to complain.
So this time round I wanted to spare myself the heartache and drama and just skip the manicure all together 😂
My mum has also been nagging at me to get my hair trimmed and conditioned and dyed and get my facial booked but WTSSSSS I'm just super stressed out now and have nothing planned except turning up for our event on Thursday.
Idk what I'm doing with my life 😂
I'm really, at this moment, just done giving shits about the way I'm supposed to look and the things I'm supposed to do.
Everyone is nagging at me, but I feel like my limbs are frozen solid and I'm not moving forward 😂
Lucky for me once in awhile Daniel and I will just sit our asses down and chop chop decide on some stuff. I think my veil is sitting crumpled in a corner of my closet 😂
I think I started off this post by wanting to be encouraging, but in the middle of writing it I'm experiencing some stress and anxiety because I'm being reminded of the things I'm not doing but I have to do 😂
Maybe I should rename this list to "the things I'm not doing…but I really need to do for my wedding" 😂
6. Not having a videographer
Haha, I was abit hesistant on this previously because my brother in law and sister in law had a videographer at their wedding and even took a pre wedding video.
So I thought it's like a must have! Especially since I'll be locked away in a room during the gate crash so I want to know what's going on right!
But we ultimately decided against it because we are not the type to rewatch videos of ourselves and we also don't like sharing on social media (my exception is dayre 😂)
I think a lot of our family members are very uncomfortable in front of the lens haha. So I think they are quite happy without a videographer 😂
I know la, people gonna tell you…it's once in a lifetime, you can capture this moment forever.
But our parents also didn't have a videographer at their wedding. And their marriage and memory of their wedding turned out fine! If anyone wants to know how my wedding went, they can come ask me…hor? 😂
Super heartened to read all your comments and a high five to all the chill brides out there! Thank you for not adding to the list of stressors I already have 😂
Ultimately, it's your wedding, your money, your life. If you want to make some exceptions for your parents because they raised you and you want to be filial, go ahead!
But please don't do it for anyone else, especially not for the gram or for people who don't have to foot the bill or clean up the aftermath!
But say easy la!
I can understand how difficult it can be to stand your ground especially when a wedding actually involves so many parties 😂
Just last night, my bridesmaids ganged up against me to make sure I have a march in during my banquet (or at least just walk one round la!!!) Haha. To which I begrudgingly said yes to.
Just do whatever makes you feel good and if you have to please people, please the ones you actually feel happy pleasing! 😉
I'm super heartened to hear all you chill brides in the comment section! To know that I am not alone 😂 and that it is ok!
It's comaradarie you know! So thank you girls for letting me know…it's ok to be a chill bride too 😂😍