Last night, before I went to bed at a very teenager timing of 2am, I made a huge mistake of idling and scrolling through Dayre.
Because, through the community page, I saw that someone who follows me (and whom I follow back) had liked a post with a weird title.
And so, I went to click on that post.
Worst decision ever.
Or maybe best, considering how reading her post gave me the final push I needed to delete Dayre and remove it from that sweet spot on my phone and replacing it with a work related app.
So now every time I reflexively open the app placed in the spot, I’m reminded that less Dayre, more work which might be a good motto to follow in 2018 (hello! CNY not here yet means it’s not too late for new year resolutions!)
The Power of Anonymity
Anyway, back to the post.
Basically it contained alot of identifying (owner of OBC, and even calling my family name, chow!)
And a lot of name calling (scheming businesswoman, shameless, and even attacking my body positivity angle as well as my poor poor flabby belly).
All because I said I wasn’t sad Dayre was closing down. And because I didn’t give back to Dayre when it gave me so much.
I thought I’d lose sleep after reading the post because it’s mean, she identified me on social media and called me names and spread lies.
But in the end, I fell asleep within minutes of my head hitting the pillow and didn’t wake up till morning light streamed in and my husband sprayed my facial mist on my face 😂
Good job chow!
Sorry, you tried.
I know you tried to rile me up behind your account of anonymity and who knows, you might be lurking on WordPress as someone else, but you know what.
Thank you for reminding me that the fear of cyber bullying is real and that I need to do my part in stopping the name and shame movement.
And also, for reinforcing the fact that despite having a wonderful community, Dayre is also filled with drama and people who like to go back and forth on their opinions and also…name shame.
Anyway, let’s get back to more important things…
Like my favourite bao!
I got mine from Giant so if you’re interested you can try too! It’s got this very exquisite mushroomy taste from the vegetables that frankly is my kryptonite.
I love it. And I want to buy 100 packs of these to keep in my fridge!
Oh and btw! If you’re a home owner, please consider getting this Hitachi multi use oven and microwave thing.
It steams, grills, ovens and microwaves all in one. Really saves alot of space in your kitchen!
Look what came in the mail today! My new mules!
I ordered them the same time as the other yellow pair I got, but these came a little later cos the seller was being a weirdo.
The little wavy details name up for the fact that the thread used is white and that the brand name is ridiculous 😅
But you know what, they are beautiful when worn so I give them a 9/10 rating.
I really like these shoes! Although my mum says they make her look like a witch 😅
Yesterday, someone sent in a photo with her ultimate fortune box win, with 10 bralettes inside the box 😂😂😂
I was damn shocked even tho I knew there were boxes with 10 bralettes inside, but haha to see them all laid out like that. 😭 I also want to have such a surprise element.
Anyway, if you're looking to try your luck, @themerrymaker is doing a giveaway on her Dayre so you can win an OBC fortune box! 😊
So go go and participate. 😎
I've been updating on WordPress as well, but tbh after the initial wave of anger at the current team behind Dayre, who simply let it go (or let us, the community go), I'm kind of thinking, it's a good way to stop updating so much as well.
I've put up so much of my life here for the short years I've been writing on this platform and while it has given me so much (like my dayre friends who are gems off and online, as well as OBC!) ,
It has also brought quite a lot of heartache and sadness.
So maybe, it's time to retreat back to being the social media recluse I was!
I'm super active on IG but I don't share much cos…I used to really really really treasure my privacy until Dayre came along.
But I have followed most of you on many platforms and will be looking forward to seeing updates!
I spoke to @sgbudgetbabe over WhatsApp yesterday and she's really really really positive (which is so new to pessimist me), so go sign the save Dayre petition if you want to save Dayre!
I know I've said I won't miss Dayre, but I will miss the people and the stories.
Very much actually!
And while I might not come back even if the app is saved, I know of many who love Dayre dearly and would love to see it continue.
I'm actually here to share about my favourite bao, which I found at giant yesterday (it is SUPER elusive) because I am legit excited and when I found it, the first thing I wanted to do was Dayre it 😂
But I had already deleted the app because for some reasons notifications kept coming in non stop (backdated some more like 3 weeks ago) and my battery kept dying.
It was also sad that I was reminded that it's shutting down.
Ok but back to the bao.
It's basically a vegetable bao (荠菜) that isn't found in SG but is very common in China.
When I was on exchange in Shanghai my biggest dreams were to eat jicai dumplings everyday 😂 and I think I did eat it everyday for like a month cos I lived opposite a dumpling shop that had the bomb jicai dumplings.
Anyway, jicai is damn special. It tastes like NO OTHER VEG.
So if you wanna try, giant sells it at the frozen bao section. And I'm already in contact with the distributer to buy
This wholesale cos…
I finished 9 mini baos since I bought it last night.
Ok la @ellenxxxo and Daniel had some last night and I had 1 for breakfast this morning and Daniel had 2 for brunch.
But this shit is good.
I once made my dad dabao them frozen back for me. And he wanted to strangle me. 😂
Sorry it got blurred out cos the bao damn hot after I steamed it in my microwave and I burnt my fingers and my lens fogged up 😭
Hahahaha truly a dayrefatty
Here's the packaging!
It's by yangyang ok and uh 9 mini baos for 4.50 idk if it's cheap or not
But if anyone want to sponsor me this bao, I'll take it because I TRULY LOVE IT. 🌰🌰 <—– no bao emoji so I use chestnuts!
I've been putting up posts on WordPress (braintango.me) because idk I guess I'm trying out something old-fashioned.
I feel like I'm rebounding. From a bad breakup.
Full of resent and sadness and looking for something else to occupy my time 😅
But then again, it's been pretty fun posting on WordPress because of all the very developed features.
I'm currently putting together a post that will help you use WordPress like Dayre.
Oh my god, I sound like someone who's dating someone new and wants the new someone to be exactly like their ex someone.
What a recipe for disaster.
But so far I'm loving the new someone's added features.
I update wordpress on my phone and on my computer and it's a breeze cos sometimes I edit photos on my phone and sometimes on the laptop.
If I edit on the phone but wanna type on the laptop, all I got to do is upload the photo onto wordpress's gallery first.
Then open my laptop to insert the photo and start typing.
Vice versa if I start on the laptop first.
Thing is when you have multiple drafts and edits without posting, sometimes you end up publishing an older version of the post after the new one is up,
Essentially deleting all your new progress.
WordPress has a history function that lets you see all the edits you've made to your post! So you can retrieve all the older versions aka milestones!
(People who use Google docs for collaborative editing will know how important trackable histories are!)
But yes, for now, I am happy with what WordPress has to offer.
If you're the less chatty type, I'm sure you would have moved to Steller, which I feel is just like IG?
Bumping a post up after you update
A few of you have mentioned about how your post doesn't get bumped up in the feed when you update which is Sian cos sometimes you edit it 10 years later and the post just gets lost and nobody reads it.
Well, there's a workaround!
You can send your post back to drafts then publish it again so it moves up the feed!
@chenshiqi was saying my posts don't appear when I update so this helps to refresh posts!
You can also choose to only draft > publish after major updates.
For example doing it once every 10 photos instead of uh, bumping it up once every 1 photo which can be uh, annoying 😅
Tags are the new Hashtag
For every post, you're able to click on the tiny wheel (settings) on the post page (on mobile) to add tags.
Technically, if everyone who moved to Dayre tagged ALL their posts with Dayre, we'd be able to find everyone.
And if they also tag dayrebeauty or WordPress beauty (we gotta choose a hashtag) , it will be easy to filter out the posts that are relevant to us again.
Tags are the new Hashtag 😅
Building your reader
Everyone has a reader on their wordpress app, which functions like a feed on Dayre.
Except with more features.
On the reader, you can follow sites and users (same thing la) and search for keywords on WordPress as well.
Here you can see my reader set to showing me all the posts that are tagged Dayre!
A great way to find other dayreans!
By setting up a tags to follow page, you're basically setting up a hashtag page (like Dayre) that's curated by yourself la.
So go ahead and follow all the Taobao or dayrebeauty tags!
Thing is, you won't be able to see what dayreverse trending tags are happening so….that's sad.
But if everyone tags Dayre, then you can more or less see all the posts and sieve out new hashtags!
Ultimately I guess it's still best if Dayre can still continue to be Dayre and we don't have to find a wordpress to become a Dayre but you know what?
It's good to be prepared la right?
Hopefully Dayre stays Dayre!
Stop Throwing Shade
"So disappointed with the EPs who decided to leave"
"Stop spreading negativity"
How about stop throwing shade (lol! I'm throwing shade myself 😂 so childish.) Lucky I'm a 25 year old who self proclaims she behaves like a 13 year old so I can do that shit where I push back when people push me back too.
If you want to sit on this unknown future and pretend the rainbows and butterflies are shining out of your butthole and you're vomitting justice, peace and everything great and kind,
But please don't talk about other people la ok?
Btw, being EP doesn't mean we need to pave the way for a brighter future.
For all I know I was picked because I am a cheapo and loves to Taobao so my only obligation (if any) is to share more cheapo and best deals.
Don't ask me to advocate for anything. Neither should you expect anything from me.
Just like how someone put it, Dayre doesn't owe us anything. And I don't owe you shit. ♥️
I think one of my new year resolutions this year is…
To stop being a social media pushover.
If there's one thing I still regret doing in 2017, it's that I was convinced I should keep my mouth shut in exchange for a pristine online reputation.
Or maybe I should learn how to stand up for myself in the best paggro and cute way like my idol @jojobeans does it. 😊
I've been toying with an idea of creating an FB group for all the active dayreans so we don't lose contact even if some don't want to continue writing anywhere else.
FB now allows linking of groups (hence subgroups) so we can create beauty, home, brides, mummy groups on the main Dayre group and no matter where we post, Wordpres, Livejournal or even IG we can syndicate the posts into the respective, applicable groups.
Then again, so many things to think about and organized and facilitate.
Might as well…just see where this takes us, organically
I'm not sure if it will work, but you know what, just in case the plans to save it doesn't, maybe we can save the community?
The Facebook group can be assessed here >>
It's a private group for now, but if you want me to set it to public, please let me know in the group!
Also included, a short example on how to use the group functions.
Please try to follow it so everyone can find stuff easily! ♥️
I know alot of you are uncomfortable with revealing all your FB info to people in a group.
You can circumvent this by creating a secondary FB account to join the groups!
I know it's troublesome, but I think it might be safer if you have a sensitive job 😅
Everyone gets to join!
No need to thank me!!
Hopefully this works up 😅
Oh btw those of you that ordered, they are here! But courier services have stopped 😭 so I'll only ship them out after CNY! 😭
But if anyone wants to self collect let me know! I'll be at my Simei home so we can meet at East point!
Daniel and I have started this new routine of going back to our own apartment on Friday nights and spending the weekend there.
It’s been tiring the first few times (because not used to the bed and we are glued to Netflix on our TV in the room) but I’ve grown to look forward to having these times alone, as adults.
I’m also always thanking the heavens that our house is literally 5 mins walk from East point and how eastpoint is so great 😅
I’m going to be cooking tonight so be prepared for some amazing food photos (LOL WTF) and maybe a recipe!
On the menu tonight
Bolognese Baked Rice
I’m hungry already 😅
Lucky it’s lunch time! Today’s lunch choice is umisushi. I don’t like sushiz but Daniel does. He LOVES Jap food.
And burgers of course, as evidently as the burger he has on his t-shirt 😅
I chose umi over Pontian and Fishball Noodles! Man I must really love this dude.
My choice: Fish
I actually really like Fish and seafood as protein!
My favourite meat is Chicken, and like beef cooked western style and finally pork.
I’m very very picky about my pork because I cannot stand the porky smell that comes with Australian pork.
I dunno why the pigs eat cleaner things like grains but they smell so bad.
Indonesian pork on the other hand, pigs eat swill and taste clean 😅
I’ve moved WP to the first page of my apps list
That’s how serious I am about moving. I also actually really like this platform!
I know some of you are new to this, so I’ll definitely try to do up a guide on how to use it, chowster style 😅
It might not be like expert level, but it’s how I’ve been finding some of you!
Btw! Some new stuff in the house!
My dad handcarried this back for me because I COULDN’T RESIST!!!
I really like how having @ellenxxxo around makes me want to come home more 😅😅
We are the weirdest toomies (tenant roomie) ever 😅
More fortune cats! I have a thing for fortune cats ♥️
And a Gargoyle my friend brought back from Europe! It’s supposed to protect the house but my mum says it’s damn ugly 😅
My Bolognese features the same ratio of carrot to mince cos I cannot tahan not eating enough veg in one meal 😅
Mince the onions and the carrots.
Looks like I’m slicing my fingers off but uh no. I really hate dicing carrots but they really taste damn good in Bolognese so I guaiguai just cut.
Really a lot of carrots!
In the meantime, while you’re dicing, instruct your husband to go and clean and cut the squid 😅 For calamari.
Cut into small rings cos got more pieces so it feels like there’s more to eat!
And then start frying the onions!
While you’re waiting for the onions to soften, cook rice (lol anyone still uses the finger to measure water? Works leh? And cut your canned straw mushrooms worth a scissors cos you don’t wanna dirty your cutting board. 😅
I push my onions aside and then brown the mince first!
And then I mix them all up!
Adding in the carrots…I mean it when I say I eat alot of carrots 😅 it’s a healthy dish!
I usually use canned tomatoes instead of pasta sauce…but I forgot to buy it this time haha, so I stole some from the loomie @ellenxxxo 🙈
Easy lah, open a jar, pour everything in and then stir. I also added a cube of chicken stock for extra oomph. I add chicken stock to everything.
It’s the modern day culinary miracle!
While the bolognese lays simmering, I prep the squid for frying.
I put plain flour, salt, parsley leaves (so so important!) and chilli pepper into a leftover bag of flour. I had very little left, so I just mixed everything in the bag.
Otherwise, you can use a plastic bag, paper bag or bowl! Doesn’t matter.
This recipe doesn’t have a batter so all you do is put the wet squid (must be wet so the flour will stick) into the flour mixture and shake!
Obviously super easy. I agarate all the measurements of salt, chilli pepper and parsley flakes.
I usually test fry one piece first just to see if it’s salty enough.
Lol damn rachet got no sieve at my house so I use…a slotted spatula to let the oil drip.
Btw putting freshly fried stuff on kitchen towels makes it soggy 😅
So simple and so good la!
To finish off the baked rice, scoop out rice into 2 oven safe bowls or plates and put some olive oil uh because we like it 😅
I woke up to an entire bunch of comments on WordPress and my heart broke.
Which is why I'm here to share a completely unpopular opinion.
Sorry Dayre, I won't miss you.
I'll miss the people and the stories and the things that made you so special,
But no I won't miss you.
And guess what? @blog, you don't deserve to have us.
Will I continue to post here if the petition works and Dayre is kept alive for…a year?
But it's definitely not for the square crop, the text limits or the fact that I'll have to change the dates to update an older post.
It's for the people, and the community and that's kind of the saddest part.
But Chow, Dayre gave you everything!
So many of you (who've become my friends + tenantroomie @ellenxxxo) messaged to tell me Dayre is closing down.
Almost as if you were breaking tragic news to someone fragile.
"Sorry, but your loved one is braindead"
I'm not sure what the intended reaction was supposed to be, but I definitely was shocked because I thought the management wouldn't be foolish enough to abandon a user base so fiercely loyal (and easily capitalizable)
But obviously, I was wrong.
To be able to frivolously, out of the blue, declare that
"Oh hey, you didn't give us enough money, so we're shutting this down. Bye!~"
We're putting our faith in the wrong God.
A lot of people think that because OBC was built on Dayre (built ON not built BY), I'd have a lot of attachment to this platform.
Also, because I have 9000 followers, I'd miss the fame (what fame LOL flame more like it).
But last night, when Daniel asked me if I was sad that something I've been using so often was going to cease to exist,
My answer was…no. And I'm happy that I'm not sad.
Let's Not Talk Business
By that, I mean let us PLEASE talk about business.
I don't know a lot about what's happening, I don't analyse financial reports and I don't look at stock prices.
All I know is, if a company cannot fork out 150k to save something with such a huge user database (that's active and LOYAL and profitable), then there's something seriously wrong with it.
Plus, the fact that they sold stickers to try to raise 150k?
And not let us know that their target is 150k?
🙌 <— we were asked to help reach a target we didn't even know exist.
But that aside, I'm happy people care about the community enough to start petitions.
But if you manage to pay for this year's maintainence fees, what about the year after?
What about server upgrades when the user base grows?
What about new features? Bug fixes? New manpower?
It's like the boy who plugged his finger into a hole to save that damned dam.
In a fairytale, it works.
In our messed up reality, the dam comes crumbling down and drowns the boy.
I'm not going to deny that I'm saying it won't work (woo, double negatives),
I'm saying it won't work.
Or at least this outsider thinks it won't work.
Plus, I think the problem goes way beyond Dayre.
Oh, btw, have I also mentioned how long it'd take to even start up a subscription gateway going?
Way too much work for people who have already decided that they don't want to run this app any more.
(Btw, if you want to look at stock prices and financial analysis, look at @fitrikhamis ' post)
The people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind
I'm pretty sure we'll be able to find each other (if we want to la!) somewhere else.
Whether on IG, on weblogit (lol), WordPress (which I'm on!), Facebook, Telegram, whatever other platforms!
And the people who love reading each other's posts enough will definitely be able to hunt you guys down.
It might not be as easy or as convenient as it used to be,
but love is never easy!
To the people who say we're just complaining about management…
Yes I'm complaining.
And seeing how it is already a lost cause (I actually encouraged the sticker sale previously!) I think it's…human for me to complain at this stage?
"Eh Chow, why don't you shut your trap and talk about how we can raise funds to save dayre? Put your marketing skills to good use, you see people like SGBB are going to pitch to investors etc leh, why you just sitting here whining"
Thing is, even if we raise the money, who knows if netccentric is going to take the money?
Omg skali we crowdfund (which I will contribute if there is an official statement from Nuffnang/Netccentric) and then it's a one sided love story and the money just sits there and the person who manages it is STRESSED AF.
And when I said get a rich guy to buy Dayre? That is if they pay enough for something like an unprofitable app that needs awhile to start monetizing.
Oh, and that is IF netccentric wants to sell Dayre.
Idk, don't you think the company would have tried already?
How do you buy something from someone who doesn't want to sell? (ok la I am just speculating I don't know how businesses work, maybe you can forceful takeover or whatever thing it is)
But at the moment, it feels a little too late for that if the deadline given is what…28 Feb?
Also, idk how come they cannot just leave the app up and let it die naturally. Why shut it down?
Aiya, but what do I know right?
I'm just one user…
If dayre stays, yay!
Thank you to all the people who've helped to keep it.
But if not, we got to move on too.
Btw, I really do like @charlottewangwang 's initiative which is to post every day until Feb 28 which I think I might do as well.
Stressful, but you know what, for old time's sake la!
I've started writing on WordPress, as have quite a few others and I'm happy to see that we are making it work 🙂
Instead of hashtags, wordpress searching posts for keywords so if you'd like to # something you still can.
And if you're looking for dayreans, just search Dayre on your reader and you'll find some who've just moved over!
True to our old homely souls, we stayed in the entire day today and felt super happy.
Only time we went out was to buy ingredients for dinner haha.
The toomie (tenant roomie) came back today and we had dinner together and started talking about Dayre.
Seems like with SGBB, our chances of finding a rich guy to buy over Dayre might truly be coming true.
Hopefully it's new owner (if it exists) deserves this loyal pool of users! ♥️
I’m back because my stint at microblogging (see post below) has some sort of fizzled out…with a huge dose of disappointment?
I’ve been pouring my life out in this platform called Dayre that has become the centre of my social universe the past year and a half, but now…
Dayre is dead
Or at least that’s what the founders have said…so, as an attempt to get my social media life back together, I’m back to where it feels the safest.
Currently, I’m nestled up in bed, surrounded by my two new blanket buys and my new bedsheets.
In case you’re wondering, which I know some of you will be, I WASHED THEM.
How did they dry so fast?
Cos I used the Air Wash function on my high tech washing machine haha. But the blankets smelt a little stale so I dropped a few drops of ylang-ylang and lavender on a small hankie and threw them in the machine too. 😅
I’m obsessed with essential oils la! And I want to share a post but I’m not an expert yet, so that will have to wait.
I’m going to just put this out there and say that I’m not terribly sad about what happened to Dayre
Yes, I’ll miss the people and the stories, but no, I won’t miss the platform. Why?
Because tbh it has been a shit platform from the very get go. I always thought the limitation on text??? And forcing you to have captions after every picture was retarded.
More or less, I feel like we love Dayre because we got used to Dayre. We could have built the same community on any other platform. We make Dayre special. Dayre doesn’t make us special.
I also didn’t really like the editor’s pick function because it was basically dayre’s plan to “groom” their own influencers so they could add them to their network.
It also promoted this sense of superiority for some, who were picked. And made others who didn’t get picked, wonder if they weren’t interesting enough.
Aiya, I just thought it complicated things.
I know this is an extremely unpopular opinion, but there. I’ve said it.
For now, I’m really looking forward to seeing how we can use wordpress to regroup the community, which is one of the biggest things Dayre has given me.
But tbh, we are a community that Dayre doesn’t deserve.