Woopsies,

I didn't get to finish my previous post and then I miss the inertia to write…

Then we all know what happened because…I left it just hanging…?

I got a new Mac a few months (?) back and even though it was the completely wrong model and make (haha I wanted something else but mistook the model number when I ordered)

I am quite happy with how it's performing so far.

That says alot cos I'm usually a snob when it comes to computer performance. Then again, I judge only by how well it runs with all my Adobe apps and video editors open at once.

But yes, it's a pretty good machine.

And as far as laptops go, I still think Apple makes the best.

Headband Obsession Relapse

I'm trying to sum up my absence into points so the mundane sounds more interesting.

But after typing out the headline, I yawned at how boring I am.

Talking bout headbands ๐Ÿ˜‚

But really, I'm obsessed with this knotted faux scarf headband recently.

It's totes comfy, makes my head long longer, and sometimes makes me look like an aunty that just stepped out from a hot steam bath.

And I am totally digging that look!

I currently have it in 5 colours, and the red in 2 different textures (oh god) and I have another 7 more on the way. ๐Ÿ˜ #donttellmyhusband

But yes, it's my latest headwear obsession.

This one I've had since I was 4!

Bought in Chiang Mai haha. My mum started my hair and obsession and at my peak I had 263 headbands.

Then I did a decluttering and gave them all away.

Some to cousins, some to friends and some to the trash.

So sad! Now I'm building my empire from the ground d up again ๐Ÿ˜‚

Living In 2 Homes

Daniel and I have learnt to live out of this blue IKEA bag.

We stay at my mum's place on weekdays (cos nearer to work) and move home on weekends for a little quiet.

And this IKEA bag holds the belongings we bring to and fro from both homes.

Some people think it's super tiring to have to live in 2 places. And sometimes it really is.

But I like to think that we are lucky enough to be able to find a home in 2 separate houses.

And also,

It's not very tiring la! We've gotten used to the ritual so now I know what I need to bring along (like my hair dryer, blingbelle facial cleanser and toothbrush!!!).

๐Ÿ˜‚

Once I left my facial cleanser at my weekend home and had to drive back to take it cos I cannot tahan my face feels very not clean without it ๐Ÿ˜‚

This also leads me to the next point…

Tenant Talks

If you guys don't already know, the wonderful @ellenxxxo and I now live in the same home ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

And it's been a wonderful 1 month, and I think we might be the only people who look forward to seeing each other at home ๐Ÿ˜‚

But anyway, this woman gifted me her signature Dr Tung's floss after hearing that….

I don't floss ๐Ÿ˜‚

Ya. I don't floss. I am damn gross.

But anyway, ya, now I am flossing very diligently every night ok!

If you want to be convinced to floss, simply purchase the Dr Tung's floss, then proceed to brush your teeth as well as you can, and then floss.

The night I wanted to debunk flossing, I flossed out a piece of seaweed from behind my molars, after thorough brushing.

#nuffsaid

Ok Ellen, you win.

I will floss ๐Ÿ˜‚

Kids

This little dude can walk now! ๐Ÿ˜

It was only a few days back that he started wobbling, a max of 3 steps at a go.

And now this monkey is walking around steadily, chasing and playing peekaboo with people.

Seriously? He learns so fast!

Seriously so difficult to get a clear photo of him cos he's always moving! ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ญ

But the most obvious way to see time pass is to watch a kid every day.

Even though you're always looking, you still find that some how, some way, time has slipped away. And they are so much different from the way they were yesterday.

Sigh, PPM don't grow up so quickly!

Wearing Red

I've been wearing so much red recently! (Even tho it's on the inside)

It makes me feel a little happier. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Daniel's fav colour has always been red, and mine has always been navy. So the new CNY bralettes are really right up his alley.

I'm wearing a new bralette for the next CNY launch and I gotta say…it's crazy comfy! And gorgeous lace too.

But actually, I'm quite thankful for CNY that somehow makes us want to wear brighter colours.

I've always gravitated toward darker clothes because of the slimming effects, but recently I've found my cart full of bright colours.

And I quite like it!

It seems Dayre likes CNY too. Lots of florals and bright colours everywhere!

Tarts and Goodies

Have I mentioned that my mum makes some of the BEST pineapple tarts I've ever tasted?

The only ones that have ever come close are @jellyluck 's pineapple tarts that come from a contact.

But other than that, nope. Nothing has come close to my mum's tarts.

I've been eating these tarts since I was in Primary school (that's 15 years!) and every year, I still look forward to eating them.

They are such a special treat, because she only makes them once a year (so tiring lah!) And every year, they taste the same, and they taste so darn good!

Daniel has been eating them since Secondary school cos my mum used to make them for my friends.

I am convinced he married me so he can eat this every year and so he can steal the secret recipe haha.

He used to finish one entire bottle on the car ride home and then would keep the other bottle in his room so no one else could eat it ๐Ÿ˜‚

That was how good these little balls of goodies were!

She usually makes them with the jam on top of a flat pastry, but she knows I LOVE THEM BALL SHAPED

So every year, I get 2 boxes of these limited edition tarts.

@mrschow_yiiyin gets them too!

My dear friend @chingzx has also been fattening me (and my family!) up with her CNY goodies.

We first tried them last year, but loved them so much I couldn't wait for this year to come around.

Not pictured are her Florentine Nut and Seed crisps that my brother and aunt love so much I've ordered 8 boxes already!

I've also ordered the favour boxes (pictured) for my relatives because…you know…adulting ๐Ÿ˜‚

Last year, I was addicted to her salted egg cookies (so small and so yum???) I ate probably a hundred of them.

The sesame seeds really help in making the cookies more fragrant and crispy! ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

This year tho, I'm ridiculously addicted to the cheese cookies that are kiamkiam but also pangpang?

You know when the hokkien say it's kiampang? Like salty and fragrant. WAHHHHH damn shiok sia.

Daniel and I wiped it clean. Just cannot stop eating.

She's selling them this year so if you're interested please go over to her Dayre to check out prices!

My fav Florentine crisps are $15 for a box of 28 pcs and the salted egg cookies are $18 for a box of 52 pieces! Favour box $25!

I was gifted some because I am a friend but the reviews are my own! I've also proceeded to order like 8 boxes of Florentine crisps, 2 cheese cookies and 4 favour boxes so uh…I paid ok!

Another place I will be fulfilling my CNY snack cravings from will definitely be @thankgodforpink / My Sister Bakes????

After reading at @tieponytail 's post bout their new cookies, I cannot tahan I need to order the garlic one haha.

I'm a huge sucker for weird flavours and savoury cookies so I think I will definitely like this!

Plus I ordered from Esther during Xmas and I loved everything so much. ๐Ÿ˜ญ Especially the dark chocolate cherry cookies and the brownie which I microwaved.

I stopped Daniel from bringing out the brownies to share cos I wanted them all for myself ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ that's how much I loved it. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Daniel also LOVES Esther's lemon tarts (she dropped them off once as a small gift when she came to collect bralettes)

And he's been asking for them almost weekly since.

Everytime I talk about Esther or Hilary or MSB, he will be like, IS IT LEMON TARTS?

๐Ÿ˜

So I will be ordering them for him too!! Yay!

Thank you Esther for making the best lemon tarts ever. Daniel is damn picky with his sweets. So you have his vote!

Ok don't talk so much, I go and cart out first. ๐Ÿ˜‚

4 years ago…

Just found an old photo of us on Facebook and good lord!

How young and different we look lah!

Daniel looks super cute haha. I have forgotten how cute he used to look.

Or is it just me ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜

We've just put up our first CNY collection on ourbraletteclub.com! ๐ŸŠ๐ŸŠ

I'm personally pretty pleased with what we've put up this year.

CNY is really nostalgic for me because OBC started around this time last year? And we didn't even have our own website and our own designs then.

Looking back, it's been a crazy crazy year, but I think I'm quite happy with how far we've come. Not perfect, but perfect enough for me ๐Ÿ˜Š

Only 2 designs in this launch, but two good designs! Personally very very happy with everything, especially the Good Fortune Set that I've been prancing around in, just cos it's comfy and that shade of red is just ???? ๐Ÿ˜

I'm not a pink person, but we decided to have some link in this launch anyway, because we came across some quite gorgeous pink lace that has obvious (and not obiang) florals in them!

Btw, we, meaning my manufacturer and I haha. No one else will indulge in my fabric rants.

I actually scrolled all the way back to when I began posting on Dayre just to see what I was up to last CNY!

And mostly I was just feeling very thankful for all the support that went into the creation of OBC ๐Ÿ˜Š

Just nice, @blog just reminded us to talk about our Dayre experience and I realised. I haven't been here as long as some of you?

I think I only started actively updating late 2016, so that's only 1.5 years, compared to some of you who've been here for like what? 4, 5 years?

But this place has really given me so much more than I could ever imagine!

It gave me OBC, new friends, haters (lol? I'm thankful for that??) and crazy experiences that I wouldn't have, in a million years, dreamed of ever having.

I wasn't intending to do a roundup of the craziest moments I've had on Dayre, but I guess since I'm already talking about it, I will? ๐Ÿ˜‚

But first! Let me finish posting some photos for the #OBC #cny collection!

If you're intending to get these festive pieces, do grab em!

Doubt we will restock them in bright red after they go oos, so if you like this, head over to the site to check them out!

And a softer pink floral lace for those who are pink at heart!

Btw this piece has a tri-colour design.

Pink lace, rouge lycra lining and black straps.

So fun!

Ok, so as I was saying, haha, I wanted to just note down the things I love about Dayre, just because…the feels are everywhere today ๐Ÿ˜‚

As you know by now, I'm not a huge fan of the dayre stickers (๐Ÿ˜‚ I find they can be uh, cuter haha) and I used to be an avid fan of bitmojis and using them here.

But you know what….to show my support….

I bought them ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

I know some of you are saying that the stickers are not applicable to daily life (especially the Dayre loves you set) or that they are not cute enough but…

Tbh….

Do you ever go to a girl scout selling cookies for fundraising and tell them…

Girl ah, your cookies hor, not nice leh. Not worth my money.

Abit weird right? ๐Ÿ˜‚ People already say it's for fundraising so mai hiam!

But ykw, let's move on cos…

Wah, you see!

It's so applicable! I already used 2 stickers ๐Ÿ˜‚ but ok let me just move on to the main point of this post.

You know how some people are famous because they basically depict a lifestyle that most of us (*ahem* peasants) cannot afford?

Like how you have "Ultra Rich Asian Girls" (which is a legit series on YouTube that I casually follow because I watch it and my face is like ????? And then !!!!! And then ??!?!?!?!?!)

Which are very popular because…who doesn't wanna see someone else buy 10 Birkins while window shopping right?

Then suddenly, while sharing some of my Taobao buys on Dayre, I realised that.

Holy shit, people like it when I'm being a freaking miser and a cheapo too!

That's how I got my first 100 likes on Dayre btw.

A post on how I was so #budgetbride that I only spent $6000 on my solemnization for close to 70 pax. *pats self on back*

If you're curious, post is here @braintango:051116

This was pretty hilarious and shocking!

It was as if the underground (anonymous) society that was thriving was suddenly unearthed and everyone wanted to be a part of it.

I remembered all the secrecy and the fear of exposed identities and stories after some media picked it up and shared it.

And how Dayre tried to censor it! ๐Ÿ˜‚

But most of all, I was really impressed with the girls who were so in touch with their sexuality.

And to own it. Even anonymously, is something we don't see in asian society.

Some women have never seen their own coochies, not know what they look like and have never felt an orgasm.

And they think it's normal.

So even though there were a lot of exciting racy stuff going on in #/r21,

I thought it was coolest that women showed other women that it's ok to be sexual creatures.

And even cooler that it happened here!

On Dayre!

I also found it pretty awesome how it got other women (who were not anonymous) thinking and sharing about their own sexuality as well.

Women are sexual creatures, just like men are.

Nothing wrong with that!

Once upon a time, Dayre was free from ads.

Or was it?

Any way, a lot of people were apparently unhappy when #sponsored posts started sprouting up here.

So many debates around whether it was "ruining the dynamics" of this platform where people genuinely came to share about stuff they loved

and whether a particular individual "deserved" to be sponsored.

I was seriously quite surprised when this happened because I thought it would have been expected and people would have been used to it

I mean, IG sponsorships are like…everywhere now.

Even the government uses influencers nowadays (haha)

But to see that strong reaction really kind of showed me what Dayre was like before it was popularized.

And also how protective the OG (original) users of Dayre were of this community they had helped built and come to love.

I kind of…sort of? Understand from their POV that sponsorships ruined the whole community spirit here.

It's almost as though you've been reading about someone's life for 4 years (whether an influencer or not) and suddenly you start seeing these #sponsored posts and you wonder if everything you've read so far is actually a lie.

But in the end everyone just wants the best for this platform and community and I think we eventually found a balance between lifestyle and sponsored posts.

Which is awesome!

Hello peeps!

I think I really felt the shopaholic reality sink in when I opened my most recent #taobao parcel cos…um. It's truly excessive and I half regret everything I bought even though most of them are gorgeous, cos…

I didn't stick to my midi length rule and I'm hesitant about showing my legs (lol insecure).

But we all have those days…so let me share what I bought! ๐Ÿ˜‰

P.S purposely waited past midnight to start this post so I (hopefully) won't have to turn back time.

I've also recently purchased a new camera,so I thought I'd play with it and take some nicer (?) photos.

And also, to @mytypeofrunaway (who recommended the camera), can I just say that I trust you implicitly when it comes to cameras and photos and lighting and basically, just life (you are always so wise and give the best advice)

This is for you! For all the times you've told me I am beautiful, when I felt less than. And for the times you've told me I look gr8 in front of the lens. โ™ฅ๏ธ

Update: This is gonna be a long ass post ๐Ÿ˜‚

Mustard Ruffle Midi Dress

This mustard dress!

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0Krex4 ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅgObB0OhZCP4๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

As usual, defying the Korean look by abandoning the inner piece and wearing the outer piece as is.

I am sometimes super thankful for the Korean baggy outer spaghetti top layered look cos since the outer layer is made to look baggy,

It fits my bigger frame well. ๐Ÿ˜‚ It's the only way I fit into clothes mass produced for the general petite frame.

This piece tho, I give an 8/10

Not too bad, and soft! But the top ruffles are a little oldish looking?

Not sure…

The colour tho! I like ๐Ÿ˜

Mauve Floral Off-shoulder Romper ๐ŸŠ (sold!)

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0KvdwF ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅ

I bought a ton of pieces from this shop, and I'll denote them with a ๐ŸŠ ok! The pieces are generally shit quality but cheap ๐Ÿ˜‚

However, they look decent when worn.

So it's those kind of, buy already look chio but 2 months later you gotta throw away kind.

I dk why I'm in love with off shoulders (omg I have like 100000 in this parcel) but this one and the flare sleeved caught my attention!

Ok la, like I said, the material is those type of shit cheap material (lol) but it somehow looks super nice when worn.

I wear XL and it is slightly snug at the bottoms, and across the torso + arms.

Thinking of letting this go, so if anyone is interested, do comment and I'll list this up on my shopee!

The rust colour tho!โ™ฅ๏ธ

Close up on the florals + bell sleeves!

I rate this a 6/10 LOL cos I'm abit too bahbah to fit into it. And the material is like….3/10

But value for money? 100% la I think this was barely $10 ๐Ÿ˜‚ before shipping.

White Off-shoulder Floral Dress ๐ŸŠ

I dunno what made me buy this, but I think it might have something to do with the affordable price? ๐Ÿ˜‚

Not really my style, but again, this shop makes magic with shitty material.

With the sash it's fab but without it looks like shite. So I am deathly afraid of losing the sash now ๐Ÿ˜‚

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0KylQb ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅQqI90OhgETu๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Not too shabby right?

Abit sheer so you can see my bright yellow strapless bralette (from OBC, launching soon) that I LOVE.

Wtf I feel like the only way I could find comfy lingerie is to make and design them myself. I've searched all my life for a good comfy strapless and never found it. Until this yellow one we made.

Seriously, multiple times today I checked to see if my bralette had fallen cos it felt like nothing was there. But the bralette was still there? ๐Ÿ˜‚

Ok back to the dress, like I mentioned, it's gorg with the sash at the waist. But without I just look 100 months pregnant with a giant food baby.

If anyone is interested, let me know and I'll list it.

Btw this is a tad short for me after adding the waist sash and I'm 1.70 ๐Ÿ˜‚

The exposed rubber band at the cut out is ??? But idk why this shop just makes all the ??? look ๐Ÿ’ฏ ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ’ฏ and you end up being ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Lol I even told Daniel this piece was nice just now. Except it's short.

And idk why it makes me look very poofy. Maybe it's because…I'm a poofy person?

Black Off-shoulder Romper ๐ŸŠ

If I could have a dollar for every off-shoulder item I bought this time round, I'd make back my shipping ๐Ÿ˜‚

But ya, another off shoulder piece and another short piece even tho I said I wanted to stay away from short stuff??

When I'm shopping I just become another person ok.

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0qZ3Fn ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅEozf0OhSzyc๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Verdict?

I like it! Ok…I more than like it la ๐Ÿ˜‚

I give this a 9/10 (minus 1 point for the still shit material)

But it's gorgeous leh!

I always think that off shoulders with a detachable sleeve (not part of the main body piece) always looks nicer and is more practical.

Downside is that my arms damn bahbah so it's always abit tight for me. Welp.

Yellow Wrap Skorts ๐ŸŠ

Spot the Chanel hanger ๐Ÿ˜‚

Anyway, this is a fake wrap dress hehe. But then can you tell I cannot resist anything with the fancy sleeves?

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0JcKQe ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅMssP0OSs55T๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Haha, the yellow and yellow combi between my bralette and this romper is just โ˜€๏ธโ˜€๏ธโ˜€๏ธโ˜€๏ธ

Literally walking on sunshine.

The romper is slightly loose on me! So the neckline is a little wide and low but I like it!

Trying to show you the sleeves but failed at the focus.

But it's such a cute and happy piece ๐Ÿ˜‚

I realised I can't bring myself to buy loads of red stuff for cny so I'll just buy all the bright coloured shizzle โ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜

Without the waist sash it doesn't look as nice.

Maybe cos it wasn't fitted enough, so the sash helps to define the waist.

Botanical Romper ๐ŸŠ

One of my fav pieces from this haul!

It feels like crepe paper but so flattering when worn ๐Ÿ˜ I kenot.

Just a note that all the photos were taken under very bright lights and even tho the material seems very thin, it's actually quite opaque.

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0JyUF8 ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅSyMj0O7rnVg๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Legit one of my fav pieces. So nice lah!

I have also realised that when I wear stuff that reveals my shoulders, I need to let down my hair. If not I feel very ~exposed~

But spaghetti straps are ok? #girllogic = #nologic

Love this piece btw.

LOVE

~~~~~ I am beautifooollll no matter what you sayyyyyyyy ~~~~~~

Seriously in my own world.

I give this 9.8/10

Minus 0.2 because of the weird shitty fabric but still turns out looking nice on the body?

Weird.

Buttoned Fish Tail Floral Skirt ๐ŸŠ

High hopes for this skirt ah! Haha it looks really soft in the photo and I imagined it to be another material but it's the same weird material as the rest haha.

The buttons on this are fully functional and can be unbuttoned till it opens up fully like a butterflied chicken cutlet.

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0rothl ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅitHJ0OiOyYs๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

It's abit unforgiving ah haha cos the material is soft so it creases easily.

Can u see my belly lines.

Also, I paired it with an off shoulder I got from my haul so the colours very uh unique.

Daniel said…"wow, the colour pairing…very interesting ah" ๐Ÿ˜

Say hello to my butt.

It's actually quite tight fitting but the buttons are stretchy so you don't have obvious stretch lines. Like the buttons gonna pop like that.

The bottom of the skirt has no buttons so there's sort of a slit at the fish tail portion!

Bell Sleeved Top ๐ŸŠ

I don't particularly fancy tops with that stretchy stretchy material cos I always feel that they look very cheap ๐Ÿ˜‚

But wait a minute. This top IS CHEAP.

So ok, I don't mind. Plus the bell sleeves negate the fact that there are scrunchiness all around.

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0IC5Fw ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅYIB50O82Ijb๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Lol I lazy to match the top so I just wore it over the romper ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ #lazyass

But hey! The colour not bad hor

2 tiered bell sleeves for $10?

Ok la take my money bah

Showing you the bell ๐Ÿ””

Another Off-shoulder top ๐ŸŠ

Is it got obsession with off shoulder? And funny sleeves?

I think yes.

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0H5ulb ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅn6n20OjIIem๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I almost got this in yellow (again omg) but instead got it in this burnt orange shade which is gorg!

I like it! It's more forgiving than the red one I posted previously cos this one has flutters at the tummy and is loose fitting.

I got it in 2 colours, orange and blue.

๐Ÿ˜‚

I think I went a little overboard.

The sleeves tho.

I cannot decide if they look fab or they just look like the Michelin man.

Crochet Lace Dress ๐ŸŠ (sold!)

Omg I had so many takers for this dress when I said I couldn't fit.

So now's the time to take it off my hands hahah.

The material is not fantastic (but for that price lol it's damn good alr) but stretchy!

I was afraid the inner slip wasn't stretchy but it is.

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0Hmddi ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅ7QmX0OQZtnJ๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

So it turns out that I fit!

But I still don't like it very much ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‚

Cos the bodice is a little too short for me (it's meant for more petite girls) and I'm not used to wearing high necked stuff.

It is, very gorgeous tho!

The lace at the front is ๐Ÿ˜

I want to love you, but you don't love me back ๐Ÿ˜

So please hit me up on Telegram if you'd like to take this off my hands! Going for $14 inclsv of normal mail!

I also have this in cream ๐Ÿ˜

Update! Both are sold!

Botanical Camisole ๐ŸŠ

I had to control myself when getting this cos…I have the romper in the same print in black…

So I got this in white instead! ๐Ÿ˜‰

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0FYoAP ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅOZ2a0OlWQSI๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Sorry worst photo ever. Hahahahah I was getting tired towards the end #lazy.

But this top is ok! Not bad lor. Like not bad not good, I have a lot of this emotions during this haul ๐Ÿ˜‚

The prints are nice! The cutting is a little weird tho! And their inner lining for the top stops mid bust which is just ?????????????

What were you thinking? ๐Ÿ˜‚

Off-shoulder dress ๐ŸŠ

One of my fav buys this time round as well! ๐Ÿ˜…

My mum says I'm very into this kind of loose loose dresses recently. Well….it's comfy what!

http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0FFSja ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅeHue0OOYdmG๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

I got this in 2 colours and I already wore this ๐Ÿ˜…

It's abit short so I consider it as a top for me ๐Ÿ˜‚ but if you're more petite it will be perfect as a tiny oversized dress. You know…that style?

But hor cos the elastic Criss cross.

Sometimes your flesh will be revealed, I even took a photo of the hole that appears ๐Ÿ˜…

When the top rides up your shoulders, the hole appears also.

Maybe that means….I'm too big for the dress? ๐Ÿ˜

Also got it in blinding yellow.

Good for my husband to find me in a crowded mall!

Hehe. I love this top/dress thingy

I also got a few more non clothes items from this haul and I thought I'd just share them all!

Btw RMB I bought the blingbelle facial cleanser? Haha I really loved it so much, so I bought the tooth brush as well ๐Ÿ˜…

Blingbelle Sillicon Toothbrush

This baby has been really good to me! I've been looking forward to washing and scrubbing my face recent hahaha and now I look forward to brushing too!

It feels very different from a regular toothbrush and instead of brushing you feel like your teeth are being uh wiped haha. Got the squeak squeak squeak kind of sound.

And I've been feeling like my teeth are very clean!

Close up on the bristles!

I always have a phobia of mould growing on my toothbrush haha cos it's so damp and full of bacteria.

And once upon a time Daniel changed his toothbrush so regularly cos he had tonsillitis very often.

So this is anti bacterial Sillicon, and makes me feel safer even tho…idk what it is made of ๐Ÿ˜

The battery lasts quite well! Longer than Daniel's electric toothbrush that costs 100$

Essential Oil Bottles

Bought a ton of amber glass bottles for super duper cheap this time round because I've been using essential oils for awhile now and I wanna get more bottles for all my mixtures.

This tiny dropper is darn cute??? I use it to store tea tree and bio oil at my bed side cos I always find having to pour out from a bottle very troublesome (either too much or need to touch the opening, very not hygeinic ah)

I think it's like $1 for like 5? I also got bigger dropper bottles for my hair oil

And also spray bottles!

But this mini dropper size is really my fav.

I've been wanting to share about the oils I use, but uh, I don't wanna open a world of pain to myself cos I know alot of people are buying oils from YL and Dottera which are MLM and quite pricey.

I buy all my oils off iherb so I don't wanna be seen as…not respecting the "gurus" haha.

I Google all the benefits of the different oils and blend my own to my needs so….๐Ÿ˜

I just like using them cos they smell good!

Oh, one last dress I bought.

Haha which I didn't like ๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜…

It looks cool here but it made me look like a giant peach.

The peach in James and the giant peach.

Not a good look ๐Ÿ˜

โ€œEh Meimei, you just donโ€™t like the whole world lahโ€

My brother would say to me, whenever I would make passing remarks about a random so-and-so and how I donโ€™t like them, because of this-and-that.

The same brother (oh my god, @chowchowsheep, my life IS about you) would also comment about how I have no friends, I basically donโ€™t like any one and that family are the only people I bear with and keep around because I donโ€™t have a choice.

โ€œItโ€™s trueโ€ฆโ€

I would always reply him, with a little bit of haughtiness in my tone, as if the reason I donโ€™t like to make friends with people, is because they are not good for me.

Not true though, most of the time, Iโ€™m just afraid Iโ€™m not good enough FOR them.

So, instead of having someone tell me, โ€œeh chow, youโ€™re damn weird, please go awayโ€

Iโ€™d rather be the one with the nose stuck up in the air and the one who says,

โ€œWho are you? I donโ€™t need your friendship anyway.โ€

And it is then, that I realise,

with a bit of a startle, that I am a porcupine.

I start every relationship thatโ€™s a little bid odd, with a lot of unprovoked hostility.

I tell people that I donโ€™t like so-and-so because of the lamest reasons that will make my own eyes roll.

I tell them that we are on different frequencies and make it seem like Iโ€™m the oddball that doesnโ€™t wan to be friends with anyone.

But really, I just donโ€™t like to have to be emotional vested in someone I barely know, until I know for sure, they are worth my time and energy.

Why?

Because Iโ€™ve been there, and Iโ€™ve done that.

Iโ€™ve done the whole, throw yourself out there into the wilderness,

Be your true, passionate self, and people will come, embrace you and your passion and together you will burn an eternal dancing flame of happiness.

Cut all the crap please.

That doesnโ€™t happen in real life.

What happens in real life? Is that when you put yourself out there and make friends with anyone who seems decent enough and when you set your standards real low when it comes to the people whom you let come into your life and fuck around with your insides.

Best friends who are there when they want to be and then gone when you need them to stay.

So after years of toxic relationships and having to tragically weed out the people who donโ€™t really want to be a part of my life,

Iโ€™ve developed this ball of prickly spines that I wear like a shield. It makes me roll my eyes at strangers with judgement, even though deep inside, I know that they arenโ€™t as bad as I make them out to be.

But somehow, recently, Iโ€™ve begun to feel thatโ€ฆsomething isnโ€™t right.

For the longest time, Iโ€™ve had a little something against a someone who is a distant something to someone in my family.

I would randomly throw in one-liners to tease her when her name was brought up in discussions. And when we met at gatherings that happened maybeโ€ฆonce in 5 years, I would pretend I was better than her.

But as life would have it, I was given a chance to work with her, semi-professionally recently and realised that, I donโ€™t dislike her as I make myself out to believe.

Obviously, true to the #chowstyle, I was as distant as I could be towards the whole working relationship, and towards the end, I was so frustrated that I ended up beingโ€ฆmildly hostile

But she, on the other hand, surprised me by returning hostility withโ€ฆan out of the wayโ€ฆkindness?

And you guys know how this story endsโ€ฆno, we did not end up being chummy, but yes, I can feel the wall of pricks being taken down and the fairytale ending ofโ€ฆapathy? Come into view.

I say apathy like it is a good thing, because in this case, if is.

I'll work on saying she's nice soon. Baby steps.

Underneath a ball of pricks, is nothing more than a wounded soul

Ok, not so dramatic,

And no, my soul is not mortally wounded.

Iโ€™m just trying to say that sometimes the people who leave the nastiest first impressions (lol, me) can be the people who have been through the most.

Sometimes, I look at the people whom life has tried to wear down tirelessly, yet still have the optimism to carry on withโ€ฆmaking friends? And I really, just give it to them.

Iโ€™m not even jaded to the extent of losing faith in humanity (thank you dayre, for sending people like @mytypeofrunaway into my life and helping to regain faith)

But I already find having to emotionally invest myself in someone whom Iโ€™m not sure wants to hang on to that bag pack of crazy, a completely waste of energy,

Which also brings me to the point ofโ€ฆ

Humans exhaust me

I can still vaguely remember the times where I literally throw myself into every budding relationship with a 100% of my energy, time and well, being.

I remember hanging on to my phone, waiting for my new friend to reply, wondering if she liked me as much as I did and overanalysing every word.

I am a VERY emotionally sensitive person, and I am borderline neurotic and love to overthink so human relationships truly exhaust me.

The ambiguity? The wholeโ€ฆare we friends? Or are we just acquaintances? Or what? Makes me just want to tear my hair out.

Some people donโ€™t even have to try and they make friends.

But people like me, like us? Boy do we try.

At least I did, in the very beginning.

Maybe we can meet somewhere in between?

I think Iโ€™ve come to realise that life isnโ€™t just a black and white game.

Nobody says you have to throw your 100% into anything or donโ€™t invest anything at all.

For a long time, I was very sulky running OBC because I couldnโ€™t be the porcupine I wanted to be.

During our first flea at Artbox, someone messaged to say they walked past our stall but didnโ€™t come shop because they saw the owner (talking about me yah LOL) wearing a long and black face.

I seriously got a little shock because I never knew my face was capable of being long and black even when I didnโ€™t mean for it to be.

Must be the weather.

Then Daniel said that my face is ALWAYS long and black. And even though I try to sound happy and polite when chatting, I always come across as forced and unwilling.

You see, the porcupine had taken over my life.

But time passed and now, after a year of having to meet, talk and share my life with strangers, I am strangely, less spiny as I was before.

Perhaps itโ€™s the strangers who have reciprocated the niceties and have somehow become my friends.

Or the fact that generally, people are just not as shitty as I think they are,

But one way or another, it has made the spiny porcupine retreat again.

Have you guys seen this? ๐Ÿ˜ž

Chanced upon @jojobeans' IG stories and noticed this…and then we both started talking about backing up and finding alternative platforms, which is making me so….sad?

I seldom get attached to social media, so this is really something new.

I have no idea if I will continue to post if Dayre is gone, but so far, I've really been enjoying sharing my thoughts and buys with you guys.

I'm pretty active on IG so if you want updates (if Dayre goes kaput…)

I'll be on IG at the same username, braintango!

Anyway, that aside, haha, these #obc angpaos are making my first year of official angpao giving so much better ๐Ÿ˜‚

I was telling my mum that this year she can only use our angpaos because, #supportyourdaughter

But aiya, these are the cutest la! I designed them and patterned them so it's really quite a dream come true.

There are also rose gold quotes under the flap so your recipient gets a dose of body positivity โœจ๐Ÿ‘Œ

I'm really bad at taking photos, but the text on the angpaos are rose gold. โœจโœจโœจ

And they are made of thick cardstock. ๐Ÿ˜… I thought they were postcards when I first saw them ๐Ÿ˜…

Included some quotes under the flap as a surprise to the receiver cos with all that human interaction during CNY it's easy to start believing some of the unsolicited comments from both friends and family.

"Wah so fat now ah!" Or "Wah so skinny never eat is it"

I'd like to think people open these in the privacy of their room so the messages help with calming their thoughts towards their bodies. โœจ

Btw, these are available in a set of 6, 3 designs each, with every purchase of $50! โœจ

In case you're thinking of purchasing to get the angpaos, we just launched a new collection yesterday with this gorgeous piece โœจ

It's the boho midi design! Unlined, but so perfect when paired with nipple covers!

Um, now we can move on to things that really matter, like shoes

Firstly, I'd like to say that my feet are prudes ๐Ÿ˜‚ I'm as prudish with my shoes as I am with my bags ๐Ÿ˜‚

I think I make up for it by being extremely whatever with my make up and my clothes ๐Ÿ˜‚
.

But my mum has spoilt my feet since young because she believes in buying expensive and good shoes that can last long and are super comfy.

For a long time, I wore only custom made leather shoes (I know…so spoilt) and if I bought pretty, cheap shoes, I never wore than more than twice.

My feet just disagree with them and they sweat and stink. So when I found Melissa's I was so happy!

Finally, my feet don't stink! But of course, they weren't as comfy as my leather ones and I was very sad when my mum threw away an old pair of my leather Mary Janes. ๐Ÿ˜ž

And then recently mules have come into fashion, and despite thinking that it looks just slightly weird, I've been intrigued.

Shopping on Taobao has also TRAPPED ME. ๐Ÿ˜ž So here are some of my picks (btw I'm still shopping for clothes so I might drop some links here also ๐Ÿ˜‚ I'm hoping my dad will lug them back for me ๐Ÿ˜‚)

First up, I realised I'm gravitating towards nude pink colours when I used to dislike them? ๐Ÿ˜…

I think hanging out with @tshihhwee brought out the millennial in me. I almost got a millenial pink g shock until reality hit me in the face and I realised it would get dirty SOOOO quickly.

Ok but I digress. Aren't these shoes just beautiful? All my listings are real leather shoes so they aren't cheap (like $10 kind)

At 185rmb these are expensive for Taobao standards, but cheap if they are real leather! Mine used to cost about 500-800rmb and they would trace my feet to custom make ๐Ÿ˜‚

My feel are huge so I'm usually hesitant to get shoes from Taobao, but mules have no heel part so…should be more forgiving?

Link –> http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0bhvr4 ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅT0CB0lM0pnx๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

(Lazy to shortlink ๐Ÿ˜‚)

The Matt black ones are so nice too! I like the brown sole.

Btw do you see the kinfolk magazine in the background? ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Taobao sells sheets of paper with kinfolk coverpages specifically to use for flatlays. ๐Ÿ˜‚ It's not a real magazine ๐Ÿ˜‚

Next up? Adding more yellow into my life with these babies!

Haha somehow a lot of the mules I've seen on Dayre are very masculine but I'm happy to have found more feminine and flirty designs! โ™ฅ๏ธ

These are made of pig skin! Around 136rmb so it's damn worth it.

Now I want them in both colours. HELP?????

Link: http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0biX4D ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅM8QZ0lM1xU7๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

A slightly less playful, more work appropriate pair?

I'm usually very careful when buying shoes or dresses with metal embellishments cos I'm scared they will rust and then destroy the whole shoe.

But these look pretty ok, plus real leather and since they aren't glued on (glue tends to turn yellow) I think can try?

Not my first choice tho! But CAN U TELL THE PATTERN? nudish pink again.

I think I just have a thing for nude pink shoes.

And….more pink shoes!

Back from the OBC flea and updating ๐Ÿ˜‚

Anyway, link for this is here!

—> http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0eYDPq ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅaaRy0lHHlMS๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Everytime I shop on taobao, I add about 20 listings to cart then narrow down my choices from there ๐Ÿ˜‚

Which is why I post a lot of stuff but only end up getting 1-2.

Just share lor! Some of them I'm happy to own, but life throws us curve balls like, not having unlimited amounts of money ๐Ÿ˜‚

This design also seems to be pretty popular on Taobao and a classic!

But abit too………………staple haha for me! I quite like unique looking pieces.

But the heart on the sole tho! So cute la. So common but undoubtedly cute. โœจ

Sparkly ones too!

I'm quite skeptical about the leather tho because even tho they claim they use pig skin (so comfy!), the price is a little too low at 76rmb.

So buy at your own discretion ok! I just sharing, but I don't think I'll be getting this pair despite the irresistible heart โ™ฅ๏ธ

Link –> http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0eckk9 ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅ9DX90lHGMjp๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Hello gorgeous! โœจโœจ

What's with me and yellow shoes!!! Haha but this is so cute, the mustard yellow plus the rippled edges.

I'm a little sad that the sole isn't leather (synthetic) but I guess…………it's only $20?

They have 1000 reviews ok! And most of them look gorgeous so I'm quite sold.

But they also have it in timeless black.

Why ah! Why you making life so difficult for me!!!!

Yellow or black? I'm quite keen on black now that I'm more or less certain carting out the yellow shoes from above,

But…..the mustard is….gorg???? ๐Ÿ˜ž๐Ÿ˜‚

Link –> http://www.dwntme.com/h.Z0e28Eq ็‚นๅ‡ป้“พๆŽฅ๏ผŒๅ†้€‰ๆ‹ฉๆต่งˆๅ™จๆ‰“ๅผ€๏ผ›ๆˆ–ๅคๅˆถ่ฟ™ๆกไฟกๆฏ๏ฟฅsPgc0lHFc4X๏ฟฅๅŽๆ‰“ๅผ€๐Ÿ‘‰ๆ‰‹ๆท˜๐Ÿ‘ˆ

Anyway, a good pair of shoes helps you walk a long distance and keeps your feet healthy!

My mum has corns and bunions on her feet from a time where she couldn't afford comfortable and quality shoes and she's sad about it until today.

Nowadays, she splurges on shoes, and it's truly one of her few indulgences. Her scholl sandals are SO UGLY but she loves them so much??

Everytime she buys a new pair (hundreds of dollars one leh), she will parade around the house ๐Ÿ˜‚

And she always threatens to throw out all the shoes I buy from Taobao and from cotton on cos she cannot stand the sight of cheap shoes that hurt my feet.

Come to think of it…alot of my mum's choices in life have affected mine. ๐Ÿ˜‚ don't realise it until I churn them out into words ๐Ÿ˜‚

But yes! Take care of your feet! ๐Ÿ‘Œ They are important and they take you places!

#ihadsmellyfeet

#theystanksomuchmyMILaskedwhatsthatsmell

#whenitookoffmyshoesinthecar

#nosmellyfeetplease

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After a long day at flea, I'd just like to make a note here to remind myself that,

In this life, it is impossible to please everyone and no matter how much of a saint you are, there will be people out there who will search for bones in your plate of tofu.

(This is not triggered by the flea, but by life ๐Ÿ˜‚)

So, if someone comes and takes their chopsticks and smashes your tofu while looking for bones.

And when they can't find anything, they madly wave their chopsticks around, yelling about how they found an (invisible) bone,

You know what you do?

You pick up that plate of tofu, and you….

Smash it in their face

๐Ÿ˜‚

Kidding. You take that plate of tofu and you eat it la! What else!

But in all seriousness, it's impossible to please everyone and there will always be people out there too bitter with their lives to let others live theirs.

Oh well, smashed tofu or not,

still tastes pretty damn great!

#igottofuyoudonthave

#invisiblefishbones

#goodenoughtobebooktitle?

Part of my previous Taobao purchases arrived! โœจโœจ

After the heavy topic in the previous post, nothing like abit of retail therapy to lighten things up! ๐Ÿ˜š #taobao

Most links can be found in my previous post —> @braintango:080118

But first of all, can I just say that I am IN LOVE with this the back top that I shared previously?

I chucked it into my cupboard cos I thought it wouldn't be flattering, but omg. Paired it with a midi skirt and it's ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Wearing the LUSO cutlet from OBC underneath and I really gotta say that having a good, reliable stick on bralette (I own 3 tho I wear them so much!) opens up my wardrobe choices by infinite times ๐Ÿ˜…

And the back!

So cute la! And the colour? I'm going to get this in ALL the colours ๐Ÿ˜…

So super cute.

Btw, howdya like my crazy background edit? Hides all the mess ๐Ÿ‘Œ

Remember this skirt?

I got these in pale pink and they fit really darn well! Hehe I know I said I'm off short skirts from now on, but these tho, haiyoh! ๐Ÿ˜ฌ This is making it so difficult to quit.

Should I….get these in another colour? ๐Ÿ˜… So excessive!

Hehe. The little waves at the fish tail are really cute lah. I was already worried that my tummy would be poofy. And maybe it is but it's too cute la.

The material isn't too thick and the lining isn't fantastic. But for the price????? Get it girls, get it. Even if it means I'll be seeing all of you in the same skirt next time ๐Ÿ˜…

Say hello to my little belly. This is so cute ๐Ÿ˜…

And from the same shop, this navy faux wrap skorts.

Is it me or is it super flattering ah? ๐Ÿ˜š

The nude version looks like this!

EMMA YAO MINI CROSSBODY

Link: ourb.club/emmababybluebag

Price: 159RMB / 35SGD

Genuine Leather

Forgot to mention this in the previous post, but I also bought 2 things from this ~designer~? On Taobao haha. I think one thing about TB is that sometimes you find great quality stuff but they have really weird brand names (like literally weird FASHIUN printed on the bag) so that kinda sucks.

This bag tho! So cute! The colour and the hassles and the shape!?

It turned out a lot smaller than I am used to so….๐Ÿ˜ฌ Hoping the small bag gods will bless me with getting some mileage out of this ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

I used to only carry big bags (omg my bags were so big it was ridiculous) but I started having problems with my shoulders and back so I reduced the amount of things in my bag.

But the thing about big bags is that things always find their way into it???? At my peak I had like 3 bottles and like 3 wallets or something.

And then I realised that when you have a big bag, people (or yourself) will just keep subconsciously putting stuff inside it because…it's good to have you know?

Since I've downsized to the green bag I also previously bought from Taobao, I feel like life is slightly easier. I still have a lot of big bags which I truly LOVE and still use.

But for the daily errand running, small bags also have my heart hehe.

Also got a small tiny wallet to match since I already have a long wallet.

Also, yellow! I am loving the yellow in my life now ๐Ÿ˜

My expectations for this were really low, that's why I didn't share it in my previous post, but it turned out ok!!!

I thought the peplum bottom was a little too narrow, but it ended up looking quite ok. Material is ok too!

I'm considering…other colours also…but…let's see how often I wear this first ๐Ÿ˜ฌ,

Oops, the original shop I purchased this from is no longer selling the dress (wts so fast out of stock nowadays!)

But I found a replacement!

ourb.club/greendress

And next…is the dress that Daniel hilariously calls….the tent.

I was like..omg this dress.

And then Daniel was like

" it's what you wear when you go for a buffet…or dinner when someone else is paying "

๐Ÿ˜“

It is truly, a very, tentish dress.

I'm gonna wear it when I just need to be comfy and don't care about life anymore.

Pompoms are cute tho!

The sleeves on this dress makes me look like I have lotus roots for arms ๐Ÿ˜“

I dunno whether to love it…or to hate it ๐Ÿ˜…

To think @ $10 dress could make me think so much โœจ

For honourary mentions…this off shoulder dress that neither impressed me in material or design.

So idk what I was thinking when I cart this out.

But I think I'm going to wear it for dinner tomorrow so….

Why do I end up wearing the not nice dresses most?????!!!!!!

THIS DRESS THO.

Why do the good die young.

Why do the nice dresses not fit at the ptp.

Idk.

It is a mystery.

I squashed myself into this and my chest got flattened but it was beautiful. Not sure if I'm ever gonna wear it cos….

Crushed chests.

Probably got to put it up on shopee or something ๐Ÿ˜“

Lets just take another look at this dress that got away.

Star crossed lovers.

So beautiful. This love story.

Ok stop ๐Ÿ˜“

I can't wait for my second parcel to come alr!!!!!!!! I guess it's not too bad hor? No complete miss. Most are like a 8/10 except the tent dress which I'm just confused about.

If it sounds like I'm rushing through this post, uh maybe I am haha. Cos I wanna talk about shoes.

SHOES.

Mules actually. I never found them attractive but I wanna give it a try.

And then I started searching and……

We all know how this story ends.

#goodbyemoney

#tellselleridontwantthebox

#saveshippingweight

#shoesgetcrushed

#butissokay

I've been thinking about how to start this post. The title, I have ready, 2 simple words, that have become the mantra to my life.

The content, I also have, spilling from my tongue and my thumbs, always shared too honestly.

But the beginning, has been hard to formulate.

Afterall, how do you tell the world that once upon a time, you were emotionally insecure?

I want to talk about a pretty dark time in my life that almost ended my relationship with Daniel. But no, this isn't a story about couples, and how to manage relationships.

It's a story about me, how messed up I was and how it kept me from living 100% of my life.

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Back when I was on exchange in China, Daniel tagged along because he had just finished his service in the army and was waiting for school to start.

He secured an internship, so we went over together, living in the same house, and going about our days together.

But nearing the end of my semester abroad, Daniel had to leave 1 month earlier to start his own semester, so we said goodbye and he left, while I stayed to finish my finals.

That's when it began.

I'm not sure if it was the physical distance, or my lack of friends and family over there, or the complete insecurity that's coded into my DNA, but I became really really really clingy.

I'd get mad if he didn't reply, and I'd like on the couch, not moving, for hours, just waiting for my phone to beep with a message from him.

The best thing was, I hated the way I behaved, but I couldn't stop the way I did.

I'd cry over the phone and demand answers as to why he didn't text for the past 5 hours, accuse him of having fun when I wasn't with him and told him to never call again since he didn't want to anyway.

And then after we hung up, I'd draft text messages, pages long, to repeat everything I had already said previously.

I spent my days endlessly waiting for a message from him, a social media post, a tag on Facebook, anything.

I built my life on the premise of someone else's.

And soon I had come to realise that without him, I didn't have a life of my own.

Eventually, time passed and time came and I booked the first flight out of China, back to Singapore, thinking it would solve all our problems.

It was just the spell of LDR, the curse that got me behaving like…someone else.

Being phsycially together would break the curse. I said.

But it didn't.

We went back our daily lives, but I realised that whenever Daniel went out without me, and didn't reply to my messages, I'd get really unhappy.

I'd think that he was having fun without me, instead of moping and wishing I was there.

And it got to the point where I couldn't be left alone if he went out with his friends.

I'd have to do something more exciting, to show him that I too was capable of enjoying my life without him around.

When deep down inside, I couldn't.

But life continued to pass and we got engaged.

And then, he said he'd want to go on exchange to Buffalo for a year.

There were a lot of discussions and technical arrangements that involves both of us being able to spend a year overseas together.

But it didn't work.

Nobody wanted to give. And this was something he had decided that he wanted to put his foot down about.

He wanted to go. And that's it.

I spent countless nights thinking of what to do. To go? To stay alone? To beg him to stay?

I thought of the days I spent in China, being someone I didn't recognize and the insecurity I still felt when he would disappear from my radar, hours on end.

And I knew I couldn't do it. I couldn't spent 1 year away from him without driving myself mad.

So I wanted to call off the engagement.

I literally told him that I couldn't do it without losing my sanity.

So if he went, we would have to discuss the whole marriage thing again.

And that's when I realised. I had a huge problem.

I had built my life around Daniel. And without him around, I literally did not know who I was and what I wanted to do.

I would turn down opportunities for work so I could spend more time with him, and always take the easiest way out at school so I could give him more attention.

I had literally told him that I put him first, which is why I couldn't accept it if he didn't reciprocate that feeling too.

And I realised that was a dangerous move.

Ultimately, Daniel stayed. And on hindsight, it was an asshole move to have coerced him into staying, but it really helped me reprioritize my life.

Don't Let Anyone Be The Center of Your Universe

I had uncannily began to realise that a lot of these emotional problems I had towards Daniel were eerily similar to the way my mother had projected towards me.

During my exchange, she would call and yell at me when I didn't contact her for a few days. Accusing me of forgetting about her and not wanting to come home anymore.

She would get upset if I didn't come home for dinner on most nights, or get upset if I went out with siblings without inviting her.

My father used to tell me it's because she loves me and that when I was born, she gave up her job to take care of me.

I was the center of her universe and for a huge part of her life, she treated my life as her own.

When I learnt calligraphy, she did too. Same for Chinese painting and Guzheng.

I was her most prized possession, and her universe revolved around me.

It sounds selfless really, and I subconsciously did it to Daniel, all I thought was that it was romantic.

But it destroyed me. And I think it damaged Daniel too.

We're ok right now, and I think I've recalibrated my grounding anchors, which is why I'm able to talk about this with such sobriety.

You think letting someone in to the center of your universe is a selfless, loving act.

But what happens is that when you draw source from someone else, not only do you forget to be who you are, you literally suck the life of the person you love as well.

Lost in someone else

Thinking back, I've always been a sucker for love, even from a younger age.

I spent most of my teenage life from crush to crush, relationship to relationship. And when I was single for a while after I turned 18, my life revolved around looking for love.

For a long time I thought it was because I was after the chase. The short fleeting period of time where you like someone but you didn't know if they liked you back.

But then I realised. I just wanted to anchor myself on someone else.

I would hop from guy to guy, messaging them every day and anchoring my daily activities down by the nights I'd spend partying with my friends.

I would sleep all day so the night would come faster. So so so so ridulous and foolish. But at that time, it just felt like I had too much time and too little entertainment.

I had given up on developing myself as a person or trying to make meaning of my life. Instead, letting someone else's take over mine instead.

If you're going through this, I understand how difficult it is to stop. Sometimes I think that realising that it's a problem is already a feat in itself.

I also wonder if this is a problem that comes with age, or maturity and is simply something you "outgrow", then I look at my mum and realise…

Nope.

You need to want to help yourself.

Till today, I'm not sure if I took the first step to put myself first, or if the universe coincided to give me something to center myself with.

But it always starts with the small things.

Watch your favourite dramas, fall in love with it and spend hours on it.

Read a book, go onlkne shopping.

Do something for yourself, instead of for someone else.

When I compare Daniel with myself, I see all the jarring differences both in him and me as well as his parents and mine.

My parent in laws are very independent when it comes to their children. They don't emotionally blackmail and are very secure about their positions in their children's hearts.

In turn, Daniel is very secure in relationships. He isn't clingy, doesn't need repeated assurances and doesn't demand attention 24/7

I used to think it was a gender thing. Like maybe girls are hardwired to be more insecure and attached to things.

But it isn't.

Nothing to do with gender and a lot to do with how you were brought up and how you have been shaped to see relationships.

If you've been exposed to relationships based on time and company. You'll grow up expecting those in return.

I see so much of myself in my mum sometimes that I have to constantly remind myself that these are the things I dislike about her.

So please don't become your mother.

The good things, yes. The over reliance, guilt tripping and weird outbursts from the lack of affection?

No.

My mum always gets upset when my dad goes out drinking with his friends and comes home drunk.

And I behaved the same way too.

Until I saw how much of her I had become. And decided that no, this is not the kind of life I want to lead.

What can you do about this?

Look at yourself. And look at yourself hard.

Don't leave room for excuses.

You cannot help the way you are feeling, but you can tell yourself that this is wrong, and that you don't want to end up becoming this person you know you are not meant to be.

I ALWAYS found excuses to get mad at Daniel when he left me alone. I found reasons to back up my anger and felt that righteousness was always on my side.

And that was bad.

Very very bad.

Because you feel entitled to the anger and the attention, you feel upset and mistreated when the other party does not want to change.

You ask yourself why, when you're doing everything for someone else, they cannot give the same back.

And that's where the problem lies.

You feel horrible, but you don't think that this behaviour is wrong.

Maybe it isn't, but it makes you feel horrible. So maybe it is time to stop.

I also found it helpful to NOT talk to someone whom you know will support your stance.

Talking to your girlfriends that will back you up, doesn't help.

I talked to my brother about this before, and he always takes the opposition's side. And it helped me realise, in utter embarrassment, that by anchoring my life on Daniel's

My ultimate goal was to have him anchor his life back on mine.

I wanted him to place me in the center of his universe. And I wanted to be the gravity that kept him grounded.

Basically, I wanted him to feel the same way I do when I have fun without him.

And when he doesn't (because he is a normal functioning human with healthy emotional quotients), I get mad.

Having someone to tell you that you're wrong, helps.

I know it's not easy, but keeping yourself busy with other stuff and coming to terms with being alone and enjoying it is really really liberating.

I relish the moments I have to myself now, I do everything and I do nothing sometimes.

I am anchored in the firm reality and the stable foundation that is myself.

I feel balanced, at peace and best of all, I feel happy to be left alone, because I am with myself.

It takes time to happen. I'm not sure exactly when, how, or what changed and my anchors shifted,

But I know it will happen for you too. One day.

Even my mum is learning to anchor herself now. Setting aside time to head out alone and do things she enjoys, without company.

Baby steps, we call it. And while it's definitely not easy and never fast, it is progress and it takes us somewhere else.

Knowing that you've placed someone in a position higher than yourself and wanting to get out of that rut is a good thing.

It's definitely a start. And with all things, the start is usually the hardest part.

So keep reminding yourself the next time you want to make a sacrifice for someone else, that without you, there is no room for love to blossom and for relationships to grow.

Nourish yourself first. And then maybe, you can learn to help someone else find their own anchor too. โš“

12 days into the brand new year and I feel like someone just took a huge shit on my originally rainbow and butterfly clad January ๐Ÿ™„

Why am I so mad?

Because of Facebook.

Here's the story.

I was refreshing images for one of our FB ads and as usual, on first attempt at publishing, our ad was disapproved.

This is nothing new to me because since Day 1 of placing ads for OBC, Facebook has been disapprobing each one by default.

Probably (more like definitely) because we are a lingerie brand.

But nevermind. I can play this game.

So I submit an appeal and let them know that hey, I sell lingerie and my ad isn't a porn site advertisement.

Usually this works and the ad is approved.

I don't know who approves it, and if they take the time to read the messages or what, but I think my Facebook lucky stars ran out this evening or some grouchy dude happened to be the one screening through the ads.

he denied my appeal.

๐Ÿ™„

So I wrote in to ask him why, because I have an ad with almost the exact images, running right now and I am constantly bombarded with ads from other lingerie brands that are more suggestive and explicit in nature.

I wanted to know if a certain kind of images were being banned

You know what he replied?

He said that it's because the pictures were too zoomed in on the breast and it dehumanises the model (which is me wtf) and treats the model like an object rather than a human.

And guess what. I was pretty fucking offended.

Firstly, I zoom in on the photos because I don't wear make up during the shoots and also because I want to protect the anonymity of my models.

If they say they don't wanna show their face. I'm like ok no problem.

Better than saying "oh sorry, don't show face ah? Cannot. " Right?

Also, if he had done his homework and taken a look at the reviews on our page, he'd realise how we empower women and help them see their own beauty.

Instead of objectifying them????????? And dehumanising them????????

If you're willing to put in so much resources into setting up an ad screening team, then please train your team to be smart enough to screen the entire brand. And not just an ad can???

Which brings me to the point of…

Why are we so afraid to talk about lingerie?

I know my mother comes from an era where having your bra strap seen by the world is akin to having your tits out and walking down the street (which btw, some people consider to be ok ๐Ÿ˜…)

But come on, haven't we moved on from that era already? They used to wear sleeved tops and skirts that covered their ankles.

But now, our mini skirts are shorter than denim shorts and our clothes don't even come with straps sometimes.

Why should women be afraid of men walking into the lingerie section at department stores and why should men not shop for lingerie for women?

It's ok for women to choose underwear for men but when men do it for women, it has to be sexualised?

(Btw I have seen super duper sweet husbands who come onto the website, asking for suggestions cos they want their wives to feel comfortable. Men of all ages!!!!! Dating boys, and old married couples)

Why do we have to be ashamed of buying lingerie that isn't plain and nude?

Why do I, as a lingerie brand manager, have to listen to the catcalls and childish banter of teenagers when they walk past our flea stalls?

(No seriously, 9/10 times, teenage boys in a group will whistle, point, and then whisper loudly, "eh this one sexy la, maybe buy for your girlfriend wear for you to see tonight")

Because we don't talk about it enough

Really.

Both men and women alike.

We don't talk about lingerie enough. We whisper, we hide, we feel guilty when we think about it.

And that shrouds the topic of lingerie in a mesh of mystery.

For something so common and so necessary, we sure do talk about it like it's some kind of imaginary monster in the room.

I've seen women who come with their children to our fleas then walk away and come back later alone. Then say it's because they are too young to see such things.

And women who send their boyfriends and husbands away, because………….? It's awkward?

I get it. Intimates are meant to be kept intimate and private right?

I always thought they were called intimates because they are the things you wear closest to your body and closest to your heart.

It's so sad though, because the less we talk about it, the more it remains this mystery. And this association of lingerie with sex and all things forbidden? It'll never go away.

I've had girls coming to ask me if I'm shameless and if my husband knows I put pictures of myself in lingerie only online. Then when I click on their profiles, they pose in 2 piece bathing suits.

And that's ok because you know, one is a bathing suit, it's functional. Unlike lingerie.

Funny thing tho, cos sometimes our bralettes cover more flesh than a bathing suit would.

Do the words sting? Of course they do. Why else would I be so mad at Facebook?

But do they sting with embarrassment?

Yes they do.

But not because I am embarrassed of myself or what I'm doing.

But because I'm embarrassed that as a society, we're still so damn narrow minded while pretending to be progressive.

By the way, did you know 70% of the women who come to our website for the first time don't know their actual bra size or have it wrong?

Why? Because they don't want to be properly measured or they don't bother being properly measured.

We don't talk about it enough for girls to know that it's not ok for the cups to be half filled and not ok for underwire to leave angry brown scars on their busts.

When the sales assistant tells you you're a 75B you accept it even tho it doesn't feel right

We don't talk about it enough to know that almost EVERYONE has breasts that fall to the side when they don't wear a bra and that breasts don't look like two perfectly sculpted canteloupes without a bra.

And that it is ok to not have perfectly round shaped breasts.

We can do better

And we are doing better.

It's just that incidents like this always make me so mad and upset that we still have a blanket rule towards lingerie in general.

I understand that safeguards like this help prevent people from exploiting ads for unhealthy stuff, but it still drives me crazy knowing that people find it justified to put a label on us just because we sell lingerie.

I've had bloggers and influencers who outrightly refuse to work with us because they think we are "racy"

And tell us in our face to look for a model that's more "loose" with their character and morals.

Needless to say, I lost all respect for that individual after our email correspondence.

But for every poopy incident that lands on my calendar there are good ones too.

Like when that 60 year old husband came onto our website asking for advice. And mistook the band size we mentioned for his wife's age (๐Ÿ˜‚)

And the boyfriends who come to the site looking for surprises for their girlfriends, specifying comfy designs only. Sexiness is secondary and a bonus.

Also, the girlfriends who bring boyfriends to our flea and ask for their opinion (not because they want to please the man, but because everyone could use a second opinion sometimes).

And the men who always tell their wives and girlfriends to "choose this one! This one softer!"

You all make my life a little easier and this uphill climb in making a dent in the lingerie industry a little more enjoyable.

One year in from when we first started OBC and I'm already happy enough with what we've achieved.

Not money wise. Money wise we could always do better (haha)

But brand and community wise, I think we are doing a pretty decent job.

We can definitely do more. Talk more. Post more. Create more.

And I think that's what we're gonna keep doing.

Disapprove my ads all you want FB, I'll find a way to convince you that not all lingerie brands dehumanise their models by zooming in to their chests.

At least we don't force our models to have a D cup yet be a Size 0.

And we don't force them to skip meals before a shoot.

I walk my talk and I stick by our brand principles.

So I'll keep trying and trying and trying.

And maybe one day, Zuckerberg will see this and realise that he can whitelist my ads ๐Ÿ™„

I'll probably die before that day comes la. Zuckerberg too busy building AI robots that will soon take over the world.

But oh well, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do right?

#keephustlin

#projectannoyfacebook

#freethetits

#dontdehumaniseme

#size12andfabulous

Ok goodnight.

All the anger has left my body through my thumbs as I typed this post. Cannot go to sleep annoyed or I'll grown and have perma wrinkles. Daniel has photos to prove that when I go to sleep angry, I frown in my sleep.

I am also super ่ฎฐไป‡. If you cross me once….man I'll remember for freaking ever. Forgive but don't forget.

Hor?

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I'm awake and even tho I want to say I'm not angry anymore, I am still very bitter ๐Ÿ˜‚

BTW, ANNOUNCEMENT

Spreeing rayon silk PJs!

Uh, this is my personal endeavour, nothing to do with OBC haha. Just that my ๐ŸŒต manufacturer has a friend that sells amazing rayon silk PJs and I'm buying them for myself for the new year.

So I opened up an offer to the girls in the OBCHICKS group to bring in some for them. Then I thought. Might as well post here also. Since I'm already going to collate ๐Ÿ˜…

Here's a set I previously purchased from them. It's a 3 piece set, consists of robe, camisole and shorts, for $48sgd.

Quality is really good la. It's stretchy Rayon and the colour doesn't run.

I split the set up and wore the robe + shorts to a movie night with Daniel.

And then wore the camisole with some black shorts as a work outfit.

Ok what. I think it's damn worth it.

Btw if you go and search on Taobao, you'll find that there are multiple similar looking listings and some going for as cheap as $10/$20 per set but uh, the quality is different la.

I've been searching for good quality manmade silk (rayon) for a long time. Most of them don't feel good, alot have colour runs and 90% aren't stretchy.

Another set I'm wearing here!

I used to dislike lounge wear and I think I still don't really like overly fancy ones but these have changed my mind.

The rayon is stretchy enough for comfort and soft and cool to the touch! I think material really makes a difference la!

I also own this set in the exact same colour! This one I wore during Christmas haha. But then I changed out cos I was sweaty.

I'm so sad I didn't get any photos in then cos Daniel was being an ass and pissed me off so I changed out if it after cooking ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

But ya, their products have been consistently good in quality.

Ok guess who found a pic?

It's me ๐Ÿ˜‚

One of the designs I'm getting for myself this time is the cacti PJs!

I'm slightly scared that it will be slightly small but it's too cute la so I'm taking the risk ๐Ÿ˜‚

I also want to say that you will be able to find the exact same picture on Taobao selling the same thing, but I'm buying from this manufacturer so quality is better. I personally find the rayon silk material much better than the ones I've ever bought from Taobao.

So disclaimer, you'll be able the same design for maybe $30?

I'm abit worried about the long sleeved sets tho cos I find that uh I get BO if I wear the robe for too long ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

Like very mild one la. Daniel say it's cos the material ไธ้€้ฃŽ ๐Ÿ˜‚

After finding the photo, I immediately dug out the green cami to wear ๐Ÿ˜š๐Ÿ˜š

Immediately feel fab. ๐Ÿ˜š

I guess why I'm ok with spending more on these is cos they aren't just home clothes? Cool enough to be worn out also!

But confession time…I still sleep in my old t shirts ๐Ÿ˜‚

I was squatting in Guardian last night while trying to reach the Catrice concealer that's placed at the bottom rack when Daniel dramatically exclaimed

"Wah wts what happened to your hair why your dandruff so bad"

๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’

FYI Daniel is usually very sensitive when it comes to my appearance cos I used to have huge image issues, so for him to be so blunt about it, it had to be bad.

Btw it was the second time this week he'd made a remark about my hair ah. The other time I was wearing black.

And there were flakes all over my top.

Before this, I had ended my lifelong battle with dandruff and had been flake free for like 1.5 years!!!!!!!!

So wah having that uncontrollable need to scratch and pick at my scalp and that embarrassing itch at the head when people mention your dandruff.

KILLED ME.

The culprit? A bottle of shampoo ๐Ÿ˜’

I had recently purchased the Moist Diane shampoo cos of the rave reviews in Dayre but I think it wasn't suitable for my scalp. ๐Ÿ˜“

The smell tho! ๐Ÿ’ฏ

I'm so used to using bland (or nasty) smelling shampoo that this was really making me damn happy la. I even forbade Daniel to use it hahaha cos it was so precious to me.

But alas, it didn't work for me. Last night I resorted to using my last bottle of selsun blue and it restored my hair to it's formal glory.

Thank god!

Some of you girls commented about wanting to try the shampoo so I thought I'd share about my hair problems in case it helps anyone!

But, disclaimer, everyone's hair is different so some trial and error is necessary to find the best solution for your problems!

Some background

My hair is ridonkulously thick. And for most parts of my life, ridonkulously long.

When I was younger, my aunt would forbid me from going to her house for stayovers because it would take like 1 hour for my hair to dry with a hairdryer and her arms would ache from trying to dry my hair ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

I recently cut my hair short but before that it was really super long la. Idk how I let it grow to that length ๐Ÿ˜“

As a kid, I already had dandruff. And another aunt speculated that it's because my hair never gets to dry well so the moisture in it breeds bacteria and fungus growth, which appears like dandruff.

She herself had damn bad dandruff issues to the point whereby she had to see a GP and they prescribed her sulfur shampoo which helped. But the doctor basically told her that she NEEDS to dry her hair completely after bathing.

So when I stayed at her place, she would patiently comb out all the dandruff in my hair with a fine toothed comb (impossible la cos the more you comb the more dandruff there is) and dry my hair thoroughly.

It helped! But as I grew older I realised whenever I was stressed my flakes came back damn badly omg and the more I picked at it and the more I scratched the worse it'd get.

I never ever sleep with wet hair ah btw, but my hair can remain damp forever if I tie it up. ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

I used to use all sorts of dandruff shampoo (head and shoulder those kind) but they never worked.

Or they'll work for like 2 months and I'd have to switch it out. I was on a constant shampoo rotation I swear.

Then one day I was like FUCK THIS SHIT. I told Daniel I wanted to shave bald ๐Ÿ˜‚ cos I cannot take it already.

When I came across the no-poo method.

No-poo

No-poo basically means no shampoo la! And what it's based on is that your hair when you're born and growing up has what they call a balanced state. So it knows how much hair oil it needs and doesn't overproduce sebum which causes dandruff.

Commercial shampoos contain sulfates that can build up in your hair and scalp and also strip your hair of all the natural oils it produces.

So every time you wash your hair, you wash away all the oil. And your scalp thinks…wah so dry…produce more oil

And then you wash again!

And it produces more!

And then it's a never ending cycle, which is why most people think it's a need to wash their hair daily.

Fun fact, after the no poo method, I only wash it once every 3-4 days or if my hair gets oily beyond measure ๐Ÿ˜‚

So for the no-poo method, you're basically supposed to create your own shampoo and conditioner out of these items

1. Baking soda + water = shampoo

2. Apple Cider Vinegar (ACV) + water = conditioner

I know it sounds WHACKEDDDD. But it worked for me! For like 6-8 months, and then I transitioned into another phase which, I will also talk about.

But back to no-poo.

In the beginning it sounds fucking whacked la. And I didn't know how to do it. But basically you need to douse your hair in the shampoo mixture and wash your hair as per normal.

Which is weird cos there are no suds (foam) and you still scrub your hair.

And once you're done with the shampoo, you rinse and I sprayed my hair down with ACV which stinks, but once you wash it away it actually smells like nothing.

Btw yes, I kept one of these obiang spray bottles in my shower to spray my shampoo and conditioner cos I felt that just pouring it on my head didn't allow my hair to be well covered by the mixture.

Apparently the first few days after you start no poo, your hair feels like shit. Because it will detox.

And you're only allowed to wash your hair once every 2 days so for awhile you'll smell and look like shit.

But your hair gets over it and you'll stop producing so much oil eventually.

One period of time my hair kept feeling chalky and I got this white residue (not dandruff) and I realised I put too much baking soda and I didn't rinse it away properly ๐Ÿ˜“ so less is definitely more.

The ACV uh, didn't do much I feel. Like maybe it did a bit of work but tbh it does nothing compared to like a commercial conditioner.

Btw conditioners are supposedly horrible for your scalp cos you never wash it away properly and it makes your scalp so so so so oily so only apply it to the hair ends if you use it ok!!!

Oh back to no poo. There were some things I really hated about the no poo and they were

1. It smells like nothing

Like legit. Because there are no fragrances (I added essential oils during the last 2 months) your hair smells like human smells. Like unscented human

Which….irks me.

2. Your hair is in a constant state of ok-ok

You know how after you washed your hair you'll usually feel fab for the first 24 hours and then after that you're just like…….ok…..

Well even after washing my hair with the no-poo I always felt…ok lor.

But it did help with my dandruff situation! Which is why I stuck with it for awhile.

I think it really reduced the itching and the amount of buildup (I'd scratch away as like white stuff) on my scalp!

Haha I was quite an avid believer of the no-poo la and I thought we all just need to get used to the ~human~ smell and the okok hair feeling.

But I started watching YouTube videos of people with experience with no pooing and they slowly transitioned into natural shampoo bars cos sometimes when you're travelling it's ridiculous to bring baking soda and ACV la ๐Ÿ˜ช

Shampoo Bars

My first ever solid shampoo bar ๐Ÿ˜‚

I actually got the JR Ligett's off iherb because it's the only place I turn to for organic ~health~ stuff haha.

And I got the 6 mini travel pack trial set to test it out.

It was ok, and very gentle for my hair and for a long while I used these without any problems with my hair. No dandruff and my hair would stay clean for 2-3 days before requiring a wash.

But I always have this….haha phobia of bar soaps cos I feel that they just sit there and bacteria grows on them or something ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

So I even went to muji and bought a box for it but it still got very gross cos you know…moisture.

But I went through about 2-3 bars of this for a good period of time!

Hair was ok. I didn't use conditioner until very very much recently again.

But shampoo bars are gr8 for travelling and also very cheap la!

One bar lasts forever and you lather it up (foam!!! Such a luxury after no poo ๐Ÿ˜‚)

I stopped using it because I was sick of seeing the melted goob of shampoo bar haha otherwise I think it was pretty fab!

But I did notice my dandruff recurring a little towards the end of my usage. Maybe my scalp got used to it!

The shampoos I've tried

Some time after, I went to Perth for my grad trip and found a Coal Tar shampoo selling in one of the pharmacies.

I read that Coal Tar in shampoo is damn good for dandruff so I bought it.

But it stinks (lol) and it sucks so I didn't use it anymore. ๐Ÿ˜“

Now, I'm using Selsun Blue (available in Guardian and Watsons)! It used to only come in on variation but now got a lot of different ones.

I use the green cap and the lavender cap one! It's the more moisturising one!

I'm super happy with the shampoo haha I just try to find alternatives cos I find it quite strong (idk I speculate) hahaha.

But it always solves my dandruff problems ๐Ÿ˜‚

My hair ends do get quite dry, but I use hair oil/serum instead of conditioner. I don't rly like using conditioner ๐Ÿ˜‚

I used to use coconut oil but now I use a serum I get from BKK!

How dandruff has affected me

I don't avoid black clothes (still love them) and I generally don't find it a huge ego bruiser.

But I really hate the misconception that people who have dandruff are dirty?

Like wtf. Who teach you one? Did you go to school?

The association is the worst. And it's the same association people have when they see people with acne

Like…you must be damn dirty never wash your face that's why you got pimples.

Wow………

I had a friend in primary school who liked to point to my head and say I don't wash my hair that's why I have dandruff.

And would tell me I'm damn dirty cos I am sweaty all the time.

๐Ÿ˜ž

Even tho I was like super clean haha. I'm not sure if all these remarks I receive caused me to be a slight germaphobe now (I carry 1 spray sanitizer and gel sanitizer everywhere I go)

But yes, please be kinder to the people around you.

Besides the whole mental issue.

I find dandruff freaking annoying because I keep wanting to pick at the scabs when I scratch too hard. And I keep wanting to scratch cos there's stuff on my head that will come off (flakes) when I scratch and it's like this never ending cycle.

Just typing about this is making my head itch ๐Ÿ˜‚

And I realise that my itch gets worse when I am embarrassed haha. Or when I'm in social situations and I tell myself not to scratch.

I also hate how it is a physical manifestation of my stress.

My head flakes like crazy when I'm highly stressed.

Daniel says I'm a pressure cooker.

I can take an immense amount of stress thrown my way and you won't even see a single crack on the surface.

But then it bubbles up and shows itself in other ways.

One of them is on my scalp and the other is my fucking incessant need to chew on my tongue ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

Yes I'm rolling my eyes at myself cos I cannot stand it.

I literally cannot control it and I chew on the tip and sides of my tongue ALL FUCKING DAY. You'll notice it if you ever converse with me irl. It's like my nervous tick.

This my friends, is the real definition of OCD. I keep doing it over and over and over again even tho I want to stop. ๐Ÿ™ƒ

And the dandruff is like another thing that irritates the shit out of me. Maybe because it's showing me that the amount of stress I can handle is peaking.

But I still have so much more to do.

A little bit like how my body is reminding me of my weakness. And…..

I just don't like it. ๐Ÿ˜ž

And from the comments, I see that I'm not alone in this dandruff battle.

Never knew it affected so many girls! From the way I see SG girls swishing and swashing their hair in the heat, I'd never suspect dandruff.

For me tho, my hair is still, 90% tied up in a ponytail. The only way to beat the Singapore heat. And to prevent crazy scratching ๐Ÿ˜‚

Chinese New Year is right around the corner. And to many girls, the days (or weeks) leading up to CNY are the busiest but best days of the year, and outfit planning becomes a huge priority.

I know of girls who plan their 7 day outift down to the earrings to their shoes and swear NEVER to repeat a clothing item or be seen in the same dress as a relative or friend.

Shopping is also a joy. You spend money KNOWING it is RIGHT to buy new clothes during this festive season.

But I never particularly enjoyed CNY shopping.

On two occasions, I was even reduced to tears because it was already the day before CNY day 1 and here I was, with no new clothes to wear.

The fist CNY I cried, my brother had brought me to tampines mall to do last minute shopping when my mum found out I hadn't bought any new clothes.

I went through EVERY store in the mall but didn't find anything I liked, or more fittingly, I couldn't find anything in my size.

I remember standing against the wall, the clock ticking by and the shops closing and bursting into tears because I felt so sorry for myself.

Here's the girl, too fat to find anything to wear during CNY.

On the second ocassion, I had actively decided not to buy any new clothes because Daniel and I had decided to start actively saving and I had no budget to buy ANYTHING.

I was being very gung-ho about it. Until the night before CNY and I realised, even Daniel had new clothes.

Only I didn't.

And then I was overcome with this overwhelming sense of sadness and pity for myself.

And then, yes you guessed it.

I cried again. Over not having new clothes to wear.

So first world, but so legitly sad.

For the past years, I've been ok with wearing the super red dresses I've reserved for CNY or older relative birthdays only.

And so far I've been pretty ok with rewearing them.

But I guess this year, it's really time to add some new red stuff to my ensemble. Especially since my grandmother can identify all the red and more formal outfits I have ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

And I thought I'd want to share them with you guys.

If you're plus sized (but usually the sellers have smaller sized also!) and on a budget this coming CNY,

you can turn to Taobao to look for some clothes as well.

I know a lot of you think that the clothes on Taobao are for smaller petite girls only. And while that is true, if you put in more effort, you'll find quite a number of pieces that cater to plus sized girls as well.

So, in the spirit of wanting no other girl to ever have to cry because they have no money or no sizes during CNY,

Here's what's in my cart for CNY 2018! โœจ

Keywords

If you're plus sized, or just shopping for a certain kind of dresses, then keywords are important in your search.

Of course you can search via image which is usually a total hit or miss, but here are some of the keywords I use:

ๅฅณ่ฃ…๏ผš women clothing
่ฟž่กฃ่ฃ™๏ผšdresses
ๅŠ่บซ่ฃ™๏ผšskirts
ๅคง็ ๏ผšplus sized
่ƒ–MM๏ผšplus sized
ๅค๏ผšsummer (useful now when all the search results show winter wear)
่ฟž่บซ่ฃค๏ผšromper
ไธญ้•ฟๆฌพ๏ผšmidi style
ๆœจ่€ณ่พน/้ฑผๅฐพ/่ทๅถ่พน๏ผšdrop waist peplum style (v popular now)
ๅค–่ดธ๏ผšfor western export
ๆฌง็พŽ๏ผšeuropean style
้Ÿฉๆฌพ๏ผškorean

Usually, combining keywords to form a phrase is best and most accurate.

You will sometimes also need to tweak your keywords to refine search after scrolling for awhile.

For example I'm super into drop waist dresses now, and at first I thought the only description was ่ทๅถ่พน but after awhile, I found ๆœจ่€ณ่พน being mentioned alot as well. So I swapped out the search terms to see how it fared โœจ

Some phrases I always use/my holy grail phrases:

ๅคง็ ๅฅณ่ฃ…ๅค (plus sized summer women clothes)

ๅคง็ ่ฟž่กฃ่ฃ™ๅค (plus sized dresses for summer)

ๅคง็ ๅŠ่บซ่ฃ™ (plus sized skirts)

It takes scrolling through, maybe 1000 listings for me to find something I like and is reasonably priced. And I can spend hours scrolling ah,

I usually watch TV and scroll when I'm taking breaks from work.

Last night, we watched TV from 11 to midnight and it was non stop scrolling action for me.

#taobao

I also just wanted to say that everytime someone shares a link with you, it's a link that they've found after tonnes of hardworking and looking and comparing so try to be more appreciative ok!

I've seen people who obviously got the link from someone (cos they bought the entire set of exact same items) but never credited the original poster (OP)

So sad haha.

A tiny shout-out would be amazing already la, a recognition of the OP's hard work ๐Ÿ†

I also share a lot of my first impressions on my IG stories complete with short tutorials haha. Cos it's just easier to post there so if you'd like to see those, you can find me on IG (@braintango) too!

Dresses / Rompers

Ok let's start with dresses, cos dresses are my favourite haha. So easy to wear and no need to match bottoms ๐Ÿ˜‚

Recently I've been into wrap, drop waist and midi dresses so my finds will reflect those!

OFF SHOULDER POOF DRESS

http://ourb.club/offshoulderpoof

Free Sized

59 RMB // 12 SGD

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Aiya so sad so many of the dresses I previously carted out have been taken off the racks! ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

But it's ok let's start with this one! It's poofy so perfect for the big meals! You won't feel uncomfortable and lol look at the cute poofy at the hem.

I'm generally ok-ok with off shoulder dresses. Sometimes they make me look so fab. โœจ

RED & BLUE FLORAL ROMPER

http://ourb.club/redbluefloralromper

Size I chose: L or XL

88 RMB // 14 SGD

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Tbh the modelled picture was the one that caught my eye. I think the model is super pretty hahaha. When seen alone the romper looks ok, but then I really like how it's festive without being too OTT.

The review photos also look pretty good! Like…resort style and abit casual and effortless.

This one goes up to 5XL!

And from the same shop…

RED FLORAL DRESS

http://ourb.club/redfloraldress

Size L

128 RMB // 26 SGD

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This one is a little pricier, but I've come to realise that most of the plus sized shops have pricier pieces.

Thing is tho, the quality for the pieces are almost always value for the money. I think maybe cos they don't have access to the mass manufacturers who make the S/M clothes so they have to charge more anyway.

Personally, I'm not getting this dress because the V is a little too high for me (I prefer deeper Vs, not because I like to show off my boobs, but because it has a slimming effect on bustier girls)

But I think the print is super festive la! I like it.

PASTEL DROP WAIST DRESSES

http://ourb.club/pasteldropwaist

Free Sized

66 RMB // 14 SGD

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Homg these 2 ๐Ÿ˜ฑ ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

I almost carted out both colours on an impulse session, then cancelled it cos it wouldn't reach my dad in time for him to bring them back.

Till today, they sit in my cart and I keep thinking of carting them out.

SHOULD I? I love the whole drop waist midi style and the colours!!!!!

P.S they are super oversized

VINTAGE LACE DRESS

http://ourb.club/vintagelacedress

Free Sized

59 RMB // 12 SGD

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I am super excessive and carted this out in navy and cream, but now looking at the measurements…I don't think I'll be able to wear it ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜‚ ๐Ÿ˜…

There's an inner slip that measures 92cm ptp and an outer sheer layer that goes up to 100cm ptp.

I probably can squeeze into the outer sheer part but not the inner slip so idk how….

Haha, anyone interested?

But in all honesty, the dress is FKING GORG. I want to fit in it so badly sigh.

Here's the other colour I got!

ELASTIC OFFSHOULDER DRESS

http://ourb.club/elasticoffshoulder

Free Sized

39 RMB // 8 SGD

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From the same shop, I also got a few of these off shoulder dresses (LOL COS SG$8 ONLY ๐Ÿ’ƒ) in various colours.

I'm hoping they uh, turn out well, because I think I was a little excessive but then……

HAHA,

cannot resist.

Hehe, got it in yellow also…cos…OBC haha.

I think my theme colour this CNY is….yellow ๐ŸŒ

DROP WAIST KNITTED DRESS

http://ourb.club/orangeknitteddropwaist

L size

66.90 RMB // 14 SGD

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Still conflicted about this till now, because it's knitted and thick, but ORANGE! With the cute contrast pink pleats at the bottom?

But it's knitted so I'm not sure if it will be too warm.

Not intending to wear it with the inner piece so it should be fine la….hor?

#ownselfbluffownself

Tops & Bottoms

Ok! Moving on to tops and bottoms haha, I always over buy tops and end up having no matching bottoms and it drives me nuts.

LOL

So here's me trying to balance the purchases a little.

TIE BACK TOP

http://ourb.club/tiebacktop

Size L

39 RMB / 8 SGD

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I previously got this top in my previous haul and I quite liked it! The PTP measurements on the site were 92 but then since it's a tie back, the PTP doesn't really count? Haha

It's cute as a crop top but abit revealing hehe perfect with the chicken cutlets tho!

No straps showing anywhere.

Got it in yellow previously and now I'm thinking of getting it in teracotta.

Very nice right!!!!! โ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธโ™ฅ๏ธ

BOTANICAL TANK TOP

http://ourb.club/botanicaltank

Size XL

39 RMB // 8 SGD

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In another episode of….chow is damn excessive, I'm also thinking of carting this out in both colours.

But I'm generally more inclined towards the white than the black because I feel it's more unique? I have so many black pieces nowadays haha.

The PTP for XL goes up to 100 so that's gr8!

P.SL: Are you guys bored yet? ๐Ÿ˜‚

SCALLOPED BUTTON CAMISOLE

http://ourb.club/scallopcamisole

Size XL

99 RMB // 20 SGD

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THIS ONE IS TOO GORGEOUS. Sigh.

Scalloped edges and a camisole? A girl can never have too many camisoles.

But the price tho ahha. $20SGD for a camisole is like a no-no, but this is like a yes-yes????

My heart is going badump badump but I think my husband (who is eyeing me as I write this post) is going no-no.

If anyone buys this, please give me a shoutout so I can read your post and weep. ๐Ÿ˜ญ ๐Ÿ˜ญ

I know $20 is not very expensive, but haha, I cannot justify it. ๐Ÿ™ˆ It's just me.

RED FLORAL BUTTON SKIRT

http://ourb.club/redfloralskirt

Size XL

49 RMB // 10 SGD

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OK TIME TO MOVE ON TO BOTTOMS! ๐Ÿป

Getting this festive looking skirt that I'll most probably only wear once. Thinking of pairing this with the yellow tie back crop top, but I can already imagine my muffin top spilling out of it and onto the floor.

I have huge issues with my lower belly (and my upper belly, ok, my whole belly) so I'm super insecure.

I find that high waisted bottoms help me a lot, but if the fabric is too thin, and it crumples easily, it really eccentuates the lumps on my body.

I know I know, you're thinking, just previously, I mentioned lumps are normal and good. And here I am talking about lumps like they are a bad thing.

I don't hate my lumps la! I just want to dress my lumps up well you know? ๐Ÿ˜‰ ๐Ÿ˜

ACCORDION SKIRTS

http://ourb.club/accordionskirt

Free Sized

89 RMB / 18 SGD

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There a bunch of links on TB for much cheaper accordion skirts, but the material and colour of this one really is different.

I love how TB continuosly improves la! And now they encourage sellers to include a video for every item and it provides a whole new experience for us buyers.

But yes, accordion skirts, super flattering no matter your size.

Also never really goes out of style! My first pleated accordion skirt belonged to my mother…it was super duper old but still worked it's charm hehe. ๐Ÿ€

MERMAID SKIRT

http://ourb.club/fishtailskirt

28 RMB // 6 SGD

Size XL

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I know I said I only wanna wear midi stuff from now on but omgggggg. I cannot help it haha. Midi skirts in mermaid form are like legit inconvenient (need to walk small steps) so, short skirts it is!

Plus, so rare to see these kind of skirts stocked in big sizes!

If you're a PPG like me for life, you'll learn to spot designs you KNOW only come in XS

I used to be so enamoured with all the designs from BKK and would buy them even if I needed to squeeze into them, then realise I never wore them again cos it was so uncomfortable.

All the skorts, little frilly tank tops, off shoulder etc. So gorgeous but one look and I know it only caters to the smaller sizes cos the factories only target the local market.

I even have like a radar now. If I see a similar design on TB I know for sure it's gonna be free sized LOL.

FAKE SIDE BOW SKORT

http://ourb.club/fakebowskirt

Size XL

28.4 RMB // 6 SGD

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From the same shop, I also got this simple A line skirt which is a style I used to LOVE back in the days.

The price is really…unmatched, but now I'm a little bit worried about quality. Will let you guys know when I receive the parcel la hor!

But this is a bottom I'd usually match with all the flared tops! Can't do bodycon bottoms cos…my belly needs space hahha.

The End?

I have a lot more to share actually! As I go along, I kept adding pieces to my cart because omg the shoppaholic in me is going insane.

But it's been really fun sharing these picks with you girls and I hope you've enjoyed it too ๐Ÿ˜‰

I told Daniel that this CNY, everyone will be wearing the same outfits as me hahah. But I guess…it's ok! The joy is in sharing right? If you see me in the same dress/top as you, pls say hi ๐Ÿ‘‹ ๐Ÿ‘‹

But before I go I just wanted to share one last thing…

I am crazy in love with this BlingBelle (LOL WHAT A NAME) facial cleansing thingo I bought from TB and got my dad to bring back for me.

Haha, it all started when @chenshiqi mentioned she got a Foreo and out of FOMO I wanted to get one also, but obv I'm damn cheapo so I wanted to try out the Taobao dupe first.

SO MANY of the chinese girls were raving over this, and they own both the Foreo and the BB, and they say there's no diff.

So I was like…110RMB, is like 25SGD only, ok la I will give it a try.

So I bought it and my dad brough it back (if not you need to ship via sensitive air shipping which is more expensive cos it contains batteries)

It comes with wireless charging and I've been using it daily for 2 weeks so far and there's no need to charge at all. Apparently it's supposed to last 2 months or about 120 uses (oops Andrea I was wrong haha). ๐Ÿ˜…

I didn't wanna do a review immediately cos…who knows whether it works after 1 use right?

After first wash, my face really felt super duper soft la. But then might just be a placeabo effect LOL.

Anyway Daniel also uses it (ya we damn gross we share 1) and he says it's damn good also. Cos he used to have a lot of blackheads and bumps but now it is smooooooth.

And after 1-2weeks, can I just say. I look forward to washing my face everyday.

Dunno is it because for my whole life I never wash my face properly or what, but I really feel the difference….I even feel like after I wash my face and I use my bio oil and moisturizer, the effectiveness is better????

idk la maybe it's just me. And placebo effects.

But if you want it! Link is here >> ourb.club/blingbelle

If it explodes, don't come and find me ok. I don't know anything. I just use it and so far it's been wonderful. No explosions and 100% waterproof.

With that same note, can I also just say that I bought the Moist Diane Grapefruit shampoo (dk what is the exact name LOL the blue one?) after seeing so many rave reviews but….

LOL it destroyed my 1year+ no dandruff streak.

I've had a long ass battle with dandruff all my life, and even resorted to the no-poo method for a good 6-8 months to cleanse my hair of all the product build up and restore it's natural state,

and then, just 3 uses of the shampoo brought it back…

And it was worse than it has ever been in like 1.5 years wts.

It smells really good but…I'm not using it anymore -_- gave it to Daniel to use instead.

I had to bust out my last bottle of Selsun Blue shampoo (LEGIT WORKS) to use and stop my scalp from flaking. I've only had small flakes recently when I'm freaking stressed out but omg the relapse after using the shampoo is INSANE.

But after using selsun my hair is back to normal alr la, I feel so happy.

I promise not to frivolously buy shampoos again.

Sorry to my scalp. I definitely do not want to go back to my no-shampoo days again. Apple Cider Vinegar as conditioner is definitely not my thing. ๐ŸŽ ๐Ÿ™… ๐Ÿ™…